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Question

why do people say suicide is selfish?
i know you leave behind your loved ones and friends and family,

but what about the pain that person is going through?

People who comment and say suicide is so selfish i would never dream of doing it, You dont know if you would you have never been in that situation, you have hurt but nothing compared to what those people have gone through, you think you wouldnt no matter what, but if you had nothing to live for, were suffering you would, i can gaurantee you.

I think it is a very selfish thing to say that person was so selfish when you have no clue....

it angeres me

what do you think?

is it selfish?

why?

Answer 1

the dictionary defines selfish as: caring supremely or unduly for ones self, regarding ones own confort! i'm not sure how suiicide can be classified as selfish. most people who commit or attemp suicide suffer from depression or some sort of mental disorder!. have you ever seen or known someone with a mental disorder and then said to yourself "man, she/he sure is selfish!" can't you possible imagine the pain someone is feeling to talk themself into jumping off a roof, or putting a gun to there head and pulling the trigger, or how about tying a loose around your neck and them jumping off a chair????selfish??? i"m with you! what a horrible thing to say about someone going thru such and emotional and psychological termoil.

Answer 2

I think you're half right. The meaning of "selfish" has been misconstrued over time to mean something always detrimental. "Selfish" merely means to act in one's own interests with disregard for the interests of others.

Ergo, suicide is selfish. It is selfish because if you took other people's interests into account there would always be at least one person who would disagree with the decision to terminate.

My friend committed suicide 12 days ago. There were plenty of people around urging her to talk through things. The problem is we didn't LISTEN properly. We said that she was selfish because we were there to help, but she wouldn't talk to us.

She was talking to us. We only wanted to listen in a "sit down and discuss the issue" type of conversation. We weren't listening to the comments or remarks made on subjects. We weren't listening to the "jokes" made. We didn't listen to the "by Monday everything will be okay" statement.

We are listening now. Too late. Thinking back on these "insignificant" details. Some are still saying "Why not talk to somebody, we were here to help"!

Who's really selfish? Who really was the one(s) ignoring the interests of the other(s)?

Until you're in that black cloud called depression, experiencing the paranoia, helplessness, isolation and frustration of having nowhere to go, and no light at the end of the tunnel, I suggest no comment is made on the subject of suicide!


Cheers

Bronco

Answer 3

I have dealt with suicide twice within my family,an uncle and a grandfather. I have never thought they were selfish but I do believe that a person that commits suicide is not in their right state of mind at the time of the suicide. I know that people are in alot of pain but there is so much help out there and if a person has a close family talk to them. Believe me when I say that the death of a loved at their own hand is an entirely different kind of grief. Family members blame themselves for not being there. I hope this helps answer your question.

Answer 4

I wouldn't say that it is cowardly. If that person really loved someone, they would ask for help first, but the people who love the person aren't necessarily the ones that the person has chosen to love. If there was really love in the equation, the person better have a good reason. But typically, they are depressed and will believe that nobody loves them anyway. Also, it is the only way out that they can see. They are half blinded by their depression and problems that maybe they can't see the ways out of the problem that an average person could. They do it when there is nothing left to do. They tried everything they could, and nothing worked. There is nothing else that helps to relieve the pain, and they have nothing to live for. No loved one, most likely, and no hope for the future. Life is not worth living anymore, and the short joys cannot overcome the blinding pain which is life.

Answer 5

It is selfish. I wanted to before but I got out of it. I was going through a lot of horrible things, so please don't tell me I don't understand. It's selfish becasue you're leaving people behind. Haven't you known anyone who did it and then a friend or family member did it afterwards. People depend on one another. It's selfish when one does it without even asking for help. It's showing that they don't have faith that someone else can help them. It's selfish and shows that the preson does not think much of other people's ability to help them.
I hope you read this despite the fact that it sounds you are set in your own beliefs.

Answer 6

yes i belive suicde is selfish but more weak then anything. Everything about life is a mix of struggles and just pure joy, and everything in the middle. NOTHING is as BAD as it seems when your depressed. so not only are you leaving someone behind your giving up on a whole lifetime!! This too shall pass. Its the will power you have to let this problem make you or break you.

Answer 7

Suicide is a the last resource to those who suffer deep mental and emotional pain. They are telling the world that no one was able to help them so thats why they are killing themselves, right? How would that make your family feel? sad, in pain, full of regret? If you are suffering so much and you cant take it anymore would you rather pass on that pain to the people close to you than trying to seek help and get better? I know it may sound old but there is always a way to solve your problems.

Answer 8

I agree with you and I do not think it is selfish at all. In fact, I think suicide is often an act of UNSELFISHNESS because the person is doing it to avoid inflicting any more pain on the world through a mental illness he may have. I am close to doing it myself and the reason why is because I've unintentionally hurt so many people in my life because of a mental illness and I don't want to continue doing it. I look as my death as a gift to other people because society will be better off without me in it.

Answer 9

first dont assume people dont know pain- real pain that is overwhelming and all consuming and just the act of breathing hurts and you can find nothing to be happy about,even though there are things that should bring you joy- it is beyond you to hold onto it.but the love you have for someone else prevents you from taking the easy way out!it is selfish and you leave others behind to clean up your messes and pay for your funeral and all other things you left undone! you have to be around for things to get better.GOD has said it is a sin to kill- that means you also.we are all GODS children and he has a plan for each of us.you rob GOD of his glory if you kill yourself, GODS child.people kill themselves not to end others problems but because they feel they cannot deal with their own or face something they have done because they dont want to suffer the consequences of their own bad choices.that is the facts.we all have a choice if you cannot handle it alone get on your knees and ask GOD for help he is always waiting to hear from you.AMEN!

Answer 10

The Japanese use to commit Heri-Keri suicide in certain cases. They thought that was bravery. The Human Spirit can be a very powerful thing that allows a person, any person mentally ill or not, to find a purpose in life and fulfill that purpose. A person that chooses to live and find a purpose that is praiseworthy, that is the brave person I know, especially if they are mentally ill or what ever.