enter frustration desperation and a turret of heart splitting words from 6 year old,says ill shoot you u dead?

Question

school lets out yet another day of bad behavior disruptive argumentive rudeness to his teacher another day of red.upon questioning him he increasing gets angrier. he starts yelling screaming i ask why did you have to take it to red again your not even trying to stay on green{thats good-red-lowest in behavior}sitting on foot stool in his bedroom he comes at me grabs my shoulders and screams i hate you i wish you were not my mom i pushed back his arms and put my hands on his shoulders and said who do you think you are iam the mom and your a 6 year old child-he started screaming i punched him which in no way did i,he continues to say im going to shoot you until you dead.im tired of the fight the husband is a crock,the child is out there and im ready to go tomarrow-i cant take the abuse the pain and heartache-i feel its time to resign give him the child the house and just leave-let him figure out what to do with house child daycare wraparound-i just feel empty and a failure so i give up

Answer 1

Wow, its sounds like a horrible situation. No wonder your on the brink of throwing in the towel. I was wondering if your husband may be abusive, or if your child is teased alot at school. Another thing is not feeling emotionally validated even at a young age. What is obvious is he needs intensive therapy. He is already acting out, but before long he will learn to bottle that anger, and then he's a ticking time bomb.
See about child pshyciatrist even now. Don't wait for your husband to do anything, get your child in to get help. Don't give up, there is hope. I wish the best for you, and your in my prayers.

Answer 2

Well, you are the mother so you cannot give up on your child. He needs you now more than ever. He is obviously emotionally disturbed. Get him the best child psychologist you can find. Take him for sessions as often as you can so that he can be diagnosed and you can be given a behavioral guide as to how to help him recover. He is filled with anger and is lashing out both at school and at home. You need to figure out what the problem is, what sets him off, and what you can do to help him gain self-control. Giving up is NOT what any self-respecting parent would do. Get this child the help he needs before he becomes a teenage gangbanger.

Answer 3

I've been there-you are not a failure, your child has a problem. Call DHS, Dept of Human Services-they are in the govt pages. Your child could have some kind of chemical inbalance- he could be ADD or autistic. My girl turned out to be bi-polar. We got help, she is happy now. It all could be a reaction to the situation w/ your husband . Kids know when something is wrong.Do this now, and be sure to talk to the caseworker about your marriage, too and take their advice!!!!. You are only one person- the burden of all this shouldn't just be on you. Once this stress is lessened, you can cope better and see more clearly what you need to do to be able to live , not just survive. It's reasonable to give up on a bad marriage, but don't give up on helping your child, and yes it may be that the best thing for him is foster care, but you need to talk to people who literally see this kind of thing everyday.

Answer 4

well, back in the day they used to say it wasnt anything a good, old-fashioned butt whipping wouldnt fix, but these kids are a new breed and beatings will get you locked up. let the school know you are at your wits end and that you need the social worker to offer suggestions on how to deal with him. where does he learn the language? why is he so angry? is the home really hunky-dory and the child just explodes out of nowhere, or are ther some issues at home that need to be addressed. coming from a family of addicts, i know how addiction and all of the situations that spring from it cause damage. i apologize in advance if thats not the case but either way- GET HELP

Answer 5

Take a vacation and sort out your priorities. Then come back and seek help for your family issues. No matter how desperate you feel, you got the child here, you are responsible for him and need to keep trying to make something of his life... seeing a happy mom would help too.

For a top contributor in Yahoo Answers, you have an odd way of writing and a kind of dark thinking pattern... Refuel your positive supply and tackle your problems for a while, put ours on hold until you feel better.

Answer 6

Our legal system it designed so you can forfeit your custody rights and sign him over to his dad. You may have to take over the child support in doing so but you no longer have the problem. It sounds like hes watching way too much TV which is a huge problem in todays kids. Raising kids nowadays is a monsterous challenge and does require both parents. You just have to do what you have to. Good luck

Answer 7

Wow that was hard to read...still not sure what you are trying to say but if your husband is really that bad and your son is out-of-control and you don't love him anymore (because to me that would be the only way I could give my child up)...than do what you said and be a failure and give up...Let you husband figure out what to do with the house, your son, daycare, everything...it is easier for you to just walk away and forget that they ever existed...is that what you really want?!?

Answer 8

You need to step back and take the whole family to counciling. Your son sounds like he has pent up frustration that he doesn't know how to communicate with you and your hubby needs to learn to take part. So I think Family counciling would be best. Never give up on a child who can be helped.

Answer 9

I'm sorry to hear all that. I can relate-I have two young children that have been difficult at times. Please don't give up. Only then will you be a failure. It sounds like he really needs you. Do you know if something has been bothering him? Counseling may be an option too....

Answer 10

He needs something, say someone else to dicipline him. Perhaps a child size class at the local martial arts school. Let him try his spitting hatred on some one who doesn't think to much of it, and forces him to obey. Listen up.