I have nice neighbors. They invite me to dinner all the time. The issues I have is just that they aren't on my time schedule. I like my son to be in bed by 8:30 on school nights (he is 7), they dont usually eat until about 8. The other issue is, is that when they have a problem, like with their cable cuz they didnt pay the bill, they ask me if they can hook up to mine. How do you politely tell them to cut it out? they over-react to everything. If I tell them no to something, they take offense and ask if I am crabby! I am not crabby, I just said no is all. Please help, I am a nice person, and like to help people, but I am trying to make it myself as well. Any advice? thanks!!
2007-05-23 12:41:42 · 18 answers · asked by joshsgrl82600 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't let them manipulate them. Be nice but be firm. Let them know that they can't and won't run over you. You pay your own bills, and you deserve to live a life worry free from pesky neighbors. Assert that the two of you do not keep the same hours, so as nice as you feel their invitations are, they are just not possible for you schedule. Let them know that you will gladly show for a daytime bar-b-cue or something, but late nights are out of the question. Also, inform them that because "your uncle works for the FBI, and always monitors you" that you will not be able to involve yourself in any illegal behavior such as stealing cable. That should probably end it.
2007-05-23 12:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by MiMi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They need to learn the meaning to no, sure you are their neigbors but you arnt family or anything so there is no obligations to do whatever they want. If they ask you for something and you dont want it just say no. Give a reason even if it is a lie.
If they start calling you crabby or whatever just say yeah yeah whatever and walk off. When they realise they cant control you by calling you names they will learn.
You need to set boundries with these sorts otherwise they will walk right over you.
2007-05-23 12:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cable piracy will land you with a huge fine if not jail time. Tell them that you like them but you're not ready to go to jail for them. Also, just say, Thanks, but I can't eat with you, my son's bedtime is at 8 and leave it at that If they say you're crabby, just say No, I'm just being a good mom and that includes no trouble with the police. I know you want to be a good neighbor , but there are limits, and they're trying to get you to broad jump one. If you are determined to stay on good terms with them, invite them over to watch cable at your house sometimes. You guys can alternate who brings the food.
2007-05-23 12:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by barbarian31@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would explain the schedule you have for your child and that if their invitation interfered with that you would have to decline.
The cable thing, tell them that you are not willing to risk the fines and penalties that would occur if the service ever discovered it occurring. If they do it again, without you permission, call the cable company and let them know.
You can only be nice so long.
2007-05-23 12:46:39 · answer #4 · answered by Chazman1347 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well just tell them that your son goes to bed at 8:30 so you cant come to dinner or say you already had dinner and about the cable thing just say that you cant afford to have there cable bill aswell and if they get mad thatz there problem they just need to learn how to live on there own and not off other people
i hope i help
nikki
2007-05-23 12:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by nikki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear! Users By Proxy--"We fed you and your kid, so now you owe us free cable" Users-Losers Just the kind of people you have to avoid all your life! Don't give them another minute of your time or they can become NASTY.! You will have to sneak into your own home to avoid being asked to do something for them or to give them something-because they have obligated you, Not cuz you want to be nice...Don't let them give you any more food, or anything else! You will be sorry!!
2007-05-23 12:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by Red Gold 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
about the cable problem, i did that too, but i made some money off of it, but when they didnt pay cut it out, but the best thing to do is try to tell them nicely
2007-05-23 12:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by ricanthuglyp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have neighbors like that but you're probably too nice to do what I do: I just don't answer the door when it's them. Caller ID helps too.
2007-05-23 12:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by Alice K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them no and explain exactly how you feel, and just firmly and strongly tell them that you will not be helping them do anything that is illegal and just leave them be, these people are users and if its not you they are trying to use they will find someone else to leech off of....
2007-05-24 19:06:53 · answer #9 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 06:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋