After you had your first child how did you find it? Did you find yourself more vulnerable than usual to the lures of other woman during this time? (ie were u more tempted to have an affair if the opportunity presented itself) if so what was the worst time, up 3 months after birth, up to 6months after or over 6months?
2007-05-23 12:28:14 · 9 answers · asked by allyspringflower 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After my wife and I had our first child it made the bond between us that much better. If you truly love your spouse or significant other, there should not ever be a temptation strong enough to lure you away from them. Opportunity will always be there but where will your conscience be?
2007-05-23 12:46:06 · answer #1 · answered by KEV 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the man. Some guys get what's called the madonna complex where they look at their wives after birth and can't get attracted to them. And sometimes those men stray. As for a time frame there is none but I'd guess it would be around the time that women kind of get depressed, start thinking that they're too ugly and wonder why would anybody love them. They see you as the mom of their child, taking care of your bundle of joy, not as the one time sex kitten he remembers from years before. What you may want to do is make a point of being affectionate with him. Remind him that you are mother and lover as well. That may keep his eyes from wandering
2007-05-23 12:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Temptation will always present itself. I've been married 23 years and have been tempted hundreds of times. I have never yielded or played with temptation, but ran from it quickly.
I love my wife and children too much to hurt them or myself by doing something foolish.
Don't think you will be able to have an affair and get away with it. Your inner heart will haunt you.
So love your wife and child. Have integrity and honor. BE brave enough and bold enough to be faithful to them. You will like yourself more for it. Now go tackle the world.
2007-05-23 12:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We had relations all through the pregnancies, the day of the deliveries, a few weeks after, and so on. I thought my wife was beautiful the whole time through and she was still interested. No temptation to look around.
Men who are going to have affairs do. Its as simple as that. Like all capable humans they will fight tooth and nail, grasp any straw, say just about anything to justify their wrong choices.
2007-05-23 12:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by AnswerGuy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I honestly don't remember finding myself being pulled towards an affair at all.
2007-05-23 12:37:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was tempted because I basically got cut off and the ex and I slept in different rooms. keep a man happy and he won't wander (same goes for vice-versa)
2007-05-23 12:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by simonsdad08 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that i was MORE tempted after having children.
you just masturbate more because your wife isn't into sex for a while right after the baby is born.
2007-05-23 12:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by mesquitemachine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never ever thought about another woman at the time . That's just plain old sick
2007-05-23 12:33:07 · answer #8 · answered by dad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never.
What does having a kid do with cheating? I have a feeling you are somewhat confused and have mistakenly attributed female behavior to men.
2007-05-23 12:31:17 · answer #9 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋