After you had your first child how did you find it? Did you find yourself more vulnerable than usual to the lures of other woman during this time? (ie were u more tempted to have an affair if the opportunity presented itself) if so what was the worst time, up 3 months after birth, up to 6months after or over 6months?
2007-05-23 12:21:07 · 7 answers · asked by allyspringflower 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
please be honest
2007-05-23 12:30:22 · update #1
A few thoughts.
One, it's normal to feel very neglected after child number one. You are now having to share not only your wife's affections, but her body as well if she's breastfeeding. She's tired, and she's all consumed with this little 10lb kid that doesn't even smile very well yet. It can be traumatic for many fathers. I found it difficult to adjust, but no, I didn't let my heart or hormones wander.
Stats say that this is a time some men commit adultery and are more likely to do it. But that doesn't mean all men. Nor does it mean any honorable men.
Life is more than sex, and a man more than his urges. It should be of some comfort to know that as your child ages, you'll begin to get your wife back. For a bit, you may feel like an outsider looking in on this cuddly duo, but don't retaliate. Instead, think "provider". It gets better as time goes on IF you pay attention to your marriage.
Remember, you are creating character with each decision you make, and as you one day teach your own son or daughter, you want to have more successes than failures.
2007-05-23 16:52:44 · answer #1 · answered by waldguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never been tempted to have an affair, either before, during or after my wife's pregnancy.
However, I will say this. It was even less likely after she became pregnant. Not only would I ruin my life and hers, but now I would cause damage to my future children. Why would I want to do that?
I understand we have urges, but we are not animals. Personally, I'm a little tired of this argument that "we all have needs". I need to go to the bathroom from time to time, but that doesn't mean I whip it out and go whenever and wherever I feel like it. One needs to control one's self. If you can't do that, what kind of person are you?
I'll get off my soapbox now. Thanks for listening to my rants.
2007-05-23 19:41:14 · answer #2 · answered by Pythagoras 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was way too proud becoming a father to even or ever consider an affair. I stood behing my vows thru sickness and in health and still do 23 yrs later
2007-05-23 19:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
during the pregnancy it was hard because my wife never wanted to have sex...so i definitely found myself having very intimate moments with myself (with both kids 1&2). i think that helped keep me away from getting too horny to a point were i would want to cheat. i may have noticed women alot more, in large part to not having sex and the fact that my wife's belly was bloating to enormous level's but cheating was not an issue
2007-05-23 19:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by Brandon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that i was MORE tempted after having children.
you just masturbate more because your wife isn't into sex for a while right after the baby's born.
2007-05-23 19:25:03 · answer #5 · answered by mesquitemachine 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you insane that's the ultimate betrayal to your kid
2007-05-23 19:28:08 · answer #6 · answered by dad 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hahahha... we just found out that you're about to cheat on your wife.... DON"T DO IT!!! LoL.
except if she's really really hot!
2007-05-23 19:37:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋