I am pregnant with my third daughter, I don't think it is right to have a babyshower with the third especially if it is the same sex as last. People ask me though as if I am . Do I do That?
My second daughter will only be 18months old when this one is due,but my family did not come to the last baby shower for her,is that why they are asking? I am so confused!?!
2007-05-23 11:50:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I don't think it is right to have a another shower in your situation either. You should have plenty of baby stuff to cover this new angel. People are probably asking you so that they can be prepared in case you do throw one. Some may be asking because they like going to parties. Others may be asking because they want to know if they can start gossiping about you and your nerve to throw another party. Don't worry about what others are thinking. If you don't feel you need a shower, don't throw one. If others think you should have one, they will throw it for you. And if others want to recognize your coming baby in a special way, they will give you a gift on their own. It is a current trend to throw a shower for every baby, but if you have more than 2 babies that starts to get expensive for your friends. Do what you feel is right.
2007-05-24 03:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lil' Miss Knowitall 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I Like The Idea Of A Gift Card Drive! Or You Can Buy Onsies In Different Sizes And Let Her Friends And Family Decorate Them So That When The Baby Wears Them Mom Can Take A Picture Of Baby In The Onsie And Give That Person A Copy! Just A Thought Cause I Would Love It If Someone Did That For My Shower! Just A Thought! Enjoy!
2016-09-05 09:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you dont need a 3rd baby shower then dont have one.. The reason people are asking is to probally get the answer in advance. I am pregnant with baby #2 1st boy, and am already looking forward to my shower.. I have nothing for a little boy, and have no idea what I am going to do. Other then wait for the shower and see what I get and go from there.. If you are positive this one is a girl as well and you have everything you need then throw a diaper shower or just have a barbque or something. No need in having the whole fancy shower.. Best of Luck and Congratulations.....
2007-05-23 12:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by auntietawnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think every baby is unique and deserves to be celebrated with a baby shower. Not everyone agrees, and that's okay too. It sounds to me like you don't particularly want a baby shower, just that you are a bit confused by people's questions about whether you're having one.
When someone asks you if you are having a shower, a polite response is, "I am not aware that anyone is planning anything at the moment." This is an honest statement of fact. If you would prefer not to have a baby shower, then when someone asks if you're having one, simply respond, "This is my third daughter and I already have everything I need!"
What it really boils down to is what you are most comfortable with! If you'd like to have a baby shower, then there's nothing wrong with that, even if this is your third daughter. Respond with a gracious thank-you if someone offers to host one for you. If you'd really prefer to skip it, then just be honest with people when they ask if you are having one, respond with the statement above.
Congratulations on the baby!!
2007-05-23 17:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by Diaper Cakewalk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have four children. I didn't have a baby shower for the last two. It was strange because with the last baby some friends asked me if I was going to have a baby shower - had they forgotten I didn't have one with the last baby? I had already been given so many beautiful gifts by so many people - so I said no, but thank you for the thought. Instead I met up with a group of girls for coffee at a cute little coffee shop for just a celebration of the new baby. I insisted no gifts and told people I just wanted to spend some time with them so they could meet her. It was nice, comfortable and no-one felt obliged to buy anything for me.
It's so different with 2nd, 3rd or even 4th children. With the first it is lovely to have a "shower", because it is your first baby .... but later on, not quite the same. So that's why I just had a nice afternoon coffee time with my friends / family - because my baby is still special and wonderful - but I didn't expect or really want a shower.
2007-05-23 11:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say not. My son is 12 now and I'm expecting my second, so I have NOTHING left at all. I am probably having a shower for that reason. But your other child is so close to this one. If people really wanna do something for you, tell them that sitting would be the best shower gift any mother of 3 could ask for.
2007-05-23 11:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have a shower for the 3rd same sex baby but people still like to give gifts. Maybe register for 3 or 4 really needed items like a new diaper bag. So if some one askes if there is anything you need just say we have a few things in mind at babies R Us or ask for a gift card or a frozen casserole.
2007-05-23 11:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by Dawn-Marie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you probably shouldn't. It's not even really appropriate (etiquette wise) to have a shower for the second child.
I saw someone recently suggest having a "Meet the Baby" party...After the baby is born, have your friends come in a group to meet her. It will give them the opportunity to celebrate your joy, and will allow you the chance to have visitors in, without the constant stream of them one at a time. I'm sure you can find a friend or coworker to help arrange this when the time comes.
2007-05-23 11:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're pregnant! Someone who is likely suffering from uncontrollable flatulence need not worry about the etiquette of these situations (I have two older, very fruitful sisters :). Every baby needs a few new things. Talk it over with your family for a bit and consider having a more casual gathering instead of the full-on "let's play some party games" type of shower. Maybe?
2007-05-23 12:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i don't see why not. it's for the new baby. you don't necessarily have to do the whole baby shower part, maybe like a bbq like some one else suggested. that would be fun. i'm sure people would like to get stuff for the new little one even if it's the same sex as the last. i mean, the new baby needs stuff of their own, you know. have fun!!
2007-05-23 12:00:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋