So I keep a journal and I always put down whatever I'm feeling I also have spells of depression so that helps

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me deal with my feeling. Well my husband takes it upon himself to read my journal and then throws it in my face about what I wrote. I am so pissed I feel violated and confused. Should I be upset or am I overreacting. I haven't spoken to him in 2 days he says he didn't violate me and is very upset that I would even say that about him.

Answer 1

Well, he shouldn't have ever read your journal! EVER! That's invading your privacy. You have the right to write down anything that's on your mind in your journal! It's very beneficial to your health too. He shouldn't have read it and he definitely shouldn't throw anything in your face. You didn't suspect anyone would read it! Everyone has private thoughts that aren't meant to be shared. I'm sure he's thought things that are just as bad as what you wrote! He just doesn't have them written down on paper. Tell him to understand that! I also have a journal and I would be so embarrassed if anyone read it!

Of course, I can understand how he might be hurt and upset. It's hard finding out loved ones PRIVATE thoughts, ya know? Personally, I think you should forgive him and find a better hiding place for your journal! Hope this helped! =D

-Hallie Love-

Answer 2

One, you incorrectly placed a comma before a question mark in the title. (However if this is the site's fault then I'll retract my statement). Two, all the Romance Languages (English, French, German, Italian, Spanish, ect.) use roughly the same punctuation. And when they do differ it's usually minor for example instead of using a decimal point like in 2.20 in France they occasionally use a comma so it'd be 2,20. (Or as the person above me stated, stuff like -ize and -ise, or color and colour). In any case, that's not an excuse for punctuating poorly overall. Because those are acceptable mistakes that no one notices. Third, for most people there is a little flag under their question that says their origin. Four, there are specific Yahoo! Answer sites for different languages so it's not even fully necessary that they come here. (I'll make amends that this isn't my strongest argument, but the point is, if they really have such a poor grasp on the language then they can use their own country's Yahoo site to get a better response). -------------- In any case, the point is, the only people who can truly use that excuse for punctuating badly are those from China (other major Asian providences), Russia (because their writing is in cyrillic), India, and probably the Middle East. Otherwise people should write decently, as it's a sign of laziness if they don't. And mainly it's harder to read for everyone.

Answer 3

Often times our brains as well as our bodies go through confusing moments. Some like you find it beneficial to write things down while others may choose other options. During times of anger it's easy to let things slip that you don't necessarily mean or when your confused to not know how to say something / what to say. Using a journal can be very therapeutic. It gives you the means to sort out your feelings and confusing. These are private thoughts that may or may not necessarily be true. Like anything private no one should ever feel like they have a right to read this information without your permission. You have every right to feel hurt and disappointed. Maybe you could ask him how would he feel if you started going through his personal stuff, reading all his emails, etc? I don't think he would take to kindly to that. Give him something to think about. I don't think you were over reacting. What's private to you should remain private. .

Answer 4

first of all, your husband DID violate you! And secondly, he must be doing something he doesnt want you to know about cuz he is afraid you may write about your suspisions.
Tell this guy to grow up and get a life and im serious when i say this, I mean come on now, if you cant express yourself with a journal maybe you should think of other options for your feelings, like counseling. i have depression also and let me tell you, if my bo looked at my journal i'd be very upset at him and feel i couldnt express myself truly to the one i love and need to think of other options. Next time, put it somewhere he wont know about and then let him guess what you write. its a good idea to write your feelingw down, its very comforting............good luck sweetie

Answer 5

I used to have a journal and I had a simialr problem. What you should do is either don't use one, or write things down
and then throw it away, but if you must keep record of feelings, find an online journal, use it to put down feelings and never ever give away your password!

Answer 6

I have wondered about why people write journals.
Do you think your thoughts are important enough that they should not be lost through the passage of time?
If you suffer from depression then I would see your journals as useful tools to help you and there for fair game.

Answer 7

I would be upset too. A journal is private and that should have been respected by your husband. Did he know that it was private? It is important to talk this through, silence won't help anything. A marriage is worth working extra hard to make it last through to old age. Talk to him and forgive each other.

Answer 8

Omg...been there, done that..so you know what I did?
I started writing a WHOLE bunch of juicy crap, for him to read. Made up stuff, and when he confronted me about it, I let him know that was JUST FOR HIM. I put everything that bothers me about him. He still confronts me sometimes, and I told him..."Funny, when I try to TALK to you about this...you don't want to hear it...yet when I talk to MYSELF about it in my journal, you READ it. So immature." He shouldn't be in your personal journal. If you don't want him in it, hide it at work, or somewhere he'll never find it.

You should also remind him that HE has personal thoughts too, that you're sure he thinks not so pleasant thoughts about you too. The only difference is, his is kept in his head, and YOU can't read them.

Answer 9

He had no business reading your private journal. In the future keep it where he cannot find it. You two need couples counseling to explore the reason you resent him and why he's not aware of it. Good luck.

Answer 10

THERAPISTS WILL TELL YOU THAT WRITING YOUR FEELINGS DOWN WILL DEFINITELY HELP DEPRESSION. YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO FEEL VIOLATED!!!!!!!! HOWEVER, MAYBE YOU SHOULD THINK ABOUT TELLING HIM YOU EVEN TOOK THE TIME TO WRITE. I REALIZE THIS MAYBE DIFFICULT FOR YOU BUT RECONSIDER YOUR OPTIONS. GET A SAFE DEPOSIT BOX AT YOUR BANK OR FIND YOUR OWN SECRET PLACE.

YOUR HUSBAND SOUNDS VERY CONTROLLING AND IF THAT'S THE CASE, ASK YOURSELF WHY YOU ARE WITH HIM.

COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY TO MAKING ANY RELATIONSHIP WORK!!!