I just want your opinion. Do you think that two mature attractive adults can be friends without either one of them thinking beyond that friendship? How about two co-workers? Just want a fresh point of view. Thanks..
2007-05-23 10:40:31 · 30 answers · asked by Shabby_Chic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes and No. Not a trick answer, because it really depends on each individual, the choices they make and the actions they take when in certain situations. You also have to consider what caused this friendship to come to be and what both people want out of it?
There are many relationships that start out as being just friends that turned romantic and there are many that forever stay platonic. In fact the best romantic and successful relationships I have personally witnessed, they began as platonic friendships. Some can start off with romantic interests but end being platonic or the other way around.
I've had quite a few male friends in my lifetime, however of them all only two of them I trusted fully and considered a best-friend in which our relationship was completely platonic and I've been friends with one of them to this day and the other one until he passed.
What about my other male friends? Well they attempted to bring our "friendship" to a romantic level even though I made it apparent that I was not interested. Ironically, once I rejected their advances the friendship ceased continue. Some attempted to keep the friendship alive on a platonic level, but I can tell you I'm no longer friends with any of those guys.
I believe we make friends with either male or female because on some level we are "attracted" to them. And I don't mean just physical, because we can be attracted to people on a emotional, intellectual, spiritual and biological level. We make friends because something "special" about that person draws us to them and makes us want to be friends, be it male or female.
However when you have a heterosexual man and woman it's possible for lines to be blurred or to crossed over simply because it's part of human nature for a man and woman to get together. I would imagine this the same for gay and lesbian friends as well.
I also believe it's possible to be attracted to a close friend and have thoughts, but to never want to act upon them because the frienship is much more valuable and sustaining than a romantic relationship ever could be. So my answer would be "yes" for some and "no" for some.
2007-05-23 11:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by hw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only in the mind of idiot liberals an TV writers. Meanwhile back in REALITY..... people have sex drives are attracted to one another and play with the diea "what if" and when they rub 2 sticks together long enough they get a fire whether they intended to or not. If both find one another as being ugly as sin or theyre both homosexual then maybe yes.Otherwise LOLOLOLOL not in this life.
2007-05-23 17:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a man,,trust me,,,sex is the most thing on mens minds....I am married over 10 yrs...every male friend i have talks about wanting to do a girl they know,,thats if she looks okay,,,some girls they want looks like a shaved dog...so looks aint every thing..but damn!!!
Any way,,,I have alot of female friends,,,but they are my wifes friend first,,,just out of respect for her....thats the way it should be..for the man and woman,,,i will not let my wife claim her male co-worker is her b/f,,,cause i am suppost to be that,,if she needs something from any man,,,she better get it from me,,,its just respect,,.any man who answers different is either gay or a lieing a**hole.we all think of sex in some way or another,,,sorry if i ruined anyones perfect thoughts of a gentleman,,just my thoughts and opions,,,I sure do hate to say that,,,but I am being honest..sorry.
2007-05-23 17:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by donttrustsnowmen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I have a few female friends whom I love to bits but I class my best friend as a male. He has a girlfriend and I see him about once a month but I love him loads and trust him more than my girlfriends. Known him years and think I would be lost without him, but nothing slightly sexual has ever happened even though we can talk about embarrassing stuff.
2007-05-23 17:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by lisa_t197 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some can be just friends, if he includes you in their friendship it should be ok. If he doesn't, just pay atttention, because some desire more! Going thru co-worker is friend, only to find out it was more!
2007-05-23 17:51:25 · answer #5 · answered by lolaray 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course we can! But "just" friends seems to limit the idea that a friendship can be fabulous! I think it is time to celebrate friendships of all kinds ... not as "lesser" relationships, but full relationships in themselves. They simply have different boundaries.
2007-05-23 18:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the girl keeps it a friendship. Guys are always looking to jump her bones.
2007-05-23 22:30:42 · answer #7 · answered by cynic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weird, this girl liverdoo on here above me looks like you. Anyway, to answer your question, Hell NO! I could never, have never been friends with a girl. A hot girl. what for? If you want someone to talk to, talk to ugly girls and fat girls, thats what they are there for,
Thank you very much, Ill be here all week
2007-05-23 22:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. though, it always makes others talk when i am friends with a guy and we get on so well.
But i thnk they can, but of course at one point you will go, 'ooh he/she is actually pretty hot' but then that will pass, but yep men and women can just be friends.
2007-05-23 17:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by janey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if at least one of them isn't attracted to the other. Then it's easy. If one or both of you find the other incredibly hot, it's difficult because your mind tends to wander.
2007-05-23 19:26:39 · answer #10 · answered by AnonymousGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋