His dad is all about being a good Christian and is obsessed with God. Then he goes and hits his kids. I don't get it. He is so mean and even when I'm around he yells and screams and he's even hit my boyfriend right in front of me. He has scars on his body that he used to tell me were from him falling, and now I find out it's because of his dad. I feel like kicking this guys butt because of what he's doing. My boyfriend and his brother are always afraid when their dad comes home and I'm even afraid when this guy comes home now. The only person that knows is me, and the kids are brainwashed into thinking that what their dads doing is alright. They know it's wrong, but they verbally say it's okay. My boyfriend is over 18 but his brother isn't. what should i do or say to help? Sorry for the terrible grammar and I wasn't sure what section this should go in.
2007-05-23 10:14:24 · 3 answers · asked by kathleen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm pretty sure I don't need a mental health exam but thanks for caring = )
2007-05-23 10:55:04 · update #1
There are some people, who abuse their Christian beliefs, in the name of God...obviously, this is not a man of God...he is hiding behind it, and only the Lord knows what is really in this person's heart...this is a tyrant, and a bully. The Lord doesn't want us to brutalize people...yes, we are to teach our children right from wrong,...he might just be a fanatic, and this is sad...People who are God fearing, don't use it to abuse people..and many people do..just look at some of the so called Christian church ministers...You don't say anything though..you will be banned from the house and from his life, if you do..this man is sick, IMO
2007-05-23 10:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend and his brother are 'hanging around' because the 'abuse' is so 'old' (has been going on for so long) that they think it is 'normal' ...
It's actually YOU I'm 'worried about' here ... because the children of abusers are usually abusers themselves ... and because you said you 'feel like kicking this guy's butt' because of what he's doing. You could be either a 'ready victim' or could become an abuser yourself.
You need to get 'help' ... by going to any ER and telling them that you want a 'full mental health evaluation' ... and if you can get your boyfriend and his brother to go and get the same thing, that would be 'best for all of you' ... but if they don't go or don't even want to you, you NEED TO GO ... and when you 'talk to the doctor' tell him about my 'concerns' about being a 'victim or an abuser' yourself ... and about 'feeling like kicking this guy's butt' too. GOOD LUCK.
2007-05-23 17:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
obvesiously this guy isabitch and you need to kickhisass ... i know this sounds rough but my stepdad hits me and im only 14 and i wish someone would just tell because im too scared to. i don't want to be all jacked up when i get older because of him. Just put yourself in your boyfriends and his brothers posisitions. iT SUCKS! Just keep encourging your b/f to stick up for himself because he's a man now and nobody should push him around. Mabye if your b/f finally sticks up for himself, his siblings will to.
good luck and i hope you get through this!
exxes&&ohhhes
2007-05-23 17:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by toothpickbabe1985 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋