and i mean older like highschool and beyond. cuz im 15 and im sereously having issues with growing up. i dont like that my friends all want to single date. there cant be a "group" anymore. its always paired off. and not that i dont like boys but sometimes i just want to hang out. its mostly just that. but im also not liking having more things i need to do.
idk. i was just wondering if anyone else felt/ feels the same way. if you had a case of peterpan ness.
2007-05-23 10:11:51 · 7 answers · asked by . 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sweetie I am over 40 and I refuse to grow up until I am placed in a nursing home or in the ground! :) I chase grass hoppers with my 5 year old grandson and on warm summer days we even go puddle jumping, I chase my sons ferret (Meko) around the house, and if I am really feeling childish you can find me on the floor wrestling with him :) I take my neices roller skating and help them find rollerskating dates you know hot guys ( my nieces think I am cool) No one said I had to grow up .....
2007-05-23 10:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by s_and_j_hatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. Lots of us have experienced the "I don't think I'm ready" feeling.
Some of it comes from misinformation. There isn't one big, all-purpose way to become an adult. It's an individual process. It's okay to date/not date/just hang with friends as feels right to you. If you meet someone you want to date, and he wants to date you, fine, you do that. In between, you hang with friends, try new things, learn to spend time happily by yourself - all things you will have to do to be a sane adult, btw.
Sure, people get nervous and declare that there's one way to do things, and we all have to do it that way, at the same time - but that isn't really true. It's just that people feel more secure if they believe there is a system, and if they do things according to the system, everything will be okay.
In fact, learning to trust yourself, learning what you like/don't like, what works for you and what doesn't, and learning to respect that and listen to it is vitally important to your health/success/sanity as an adult.
"Growing up" doesn't mean that you have to redesign yourself from the ground up. That's not growing up.
Growing up is maturing, and real maturity is a beautiful thing. Learning to respect yourself and other people, to be honest, responsible, inquisitive, kind, creative, productive, and healthy, to be able to make the most of yourself and your world, gathering enough info and experience to make wise choices, that's maturing - and it's a process. Not done overnight.
Dating or not - that's just part of the puzzle, not the whole puzzle itself. It's a way you learn more about yourself and other people, but it's not the only way, nor should you do it just to be doing it. Human relationships are more complex than dating alone - friends, both male and female, are important, too. Date when you want to. Hang out when you want to. Either is fine.
The operative word in "growing up" is "growing." It's supposed to make your world bigger, not smaller. Sure, it can be scary to contemplate the unknown. Like looking up at the top of a tree and trying to decide whether or not to climb it. In this case, the good fruit and the best view is from the top of the tree, but you can climb it in your own way and at your own rate.
2007-05-23 17:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 17 and I still have a bad case of never neverland syndrome. When you get older it won't be like that so much. good luck and just stick through it = )
2007-05-23 17:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by kathleen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
group dates for guys are a nightmare.....the guy is nervous around his date and cant show because of his buddies....he is afraid to say anything unless if her friends will get PMS on him and there is no privacy
hang out at someones house just you and friends and a few other gender people it can be fun
2007-05-23 17:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by adrian thomas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are perfectly normal...it's hard growing up! Just the fact that you recognize what you are going through means that you ARE growing up. : )
Life is a constantly changing adventure....try to appreciate the stage you are going through now.
Best wishes!!
2007-05-23 17:20:26 · answer #5 · answered by Buff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and it gets worse after you graduate... or it did for me. I haven't seen any of my friends from school in years:(. I'd love to be 15 again!
2007-05-23 17:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by Misty Lane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ever grow up darling x
2007-05-23 17:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋