I have been married for seven years, and knew of my husband infidelities, but just found out he was dating one lady for three years and they have an 11-month old baby, just 7 months younger than our last child together.
2007-05-23 10:08:11 · 33 answers · asked by heartbroken 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go see an attorney and mentally start preparing yourself for the events that will be in the near future.
2007-05-23 10:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by kristina807 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd sit myself down and ask myself if this is something I could live with comfortably without stressing about it all the time. Obviously, you stayed with him and tried to work it out after the infidelity, but even after that he was deceiving you, by NOT telling you about the child. I think personally, he's done far more damage than you are likely to be able to dismiss.
If this is something that will make you live the rest of your life in emotional duress...then move on from him, and find true happiness. That's all you can do.
2007-05-23 10:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would seriously leave him. first of all he is not just in it for the sex if it has gone on that long. and secondly honey i already come unglued if the last whore my husband had an affair with name is mentioned and i was royally disgusted when i had to see her face when i gutted our family photo album. I would never be able to handle seeing a child that was created by them. it is like throwing acid into an open wound. I am just sorry you're going through this. My husband had a vasectomy and i made damn sure that the only babies he will have to take care are mine.
2007-05-23 10:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by wilfeistykitten2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even asking this?
You obviously have known about his infidelities for a long time already...So why is this time any different?
Women like you are the reason men continue to believe they can cheat and get away with it....Because you put up with it!
2007-05-23 10:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could see taking him back if it was just a one night stand that happened only one time but, in this case you should have left him long before this. he has had more than just a one night stand, he's had an affair with some other women that he obviously has feelings for. so my question to you is, how long are you going to allow this behavior from him before you realize that you deserve more than this? and how much more time are you wasting on this guy when there's someone that will treat you better waiting for you?
2007-05-23 10:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is disgusting. How can you live with this? You need to consult with a good lawyer. Why would you stay with someone like this especially since he has been doing this all along. Aren't you afraid of catching something. I wish you lots of luck honey - you are going to need it. But no matter what- you will survive. Be strong.
2007-05-23 10:35:29 · answer #6 · answered by Babycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the height of dishonesty in a man. Not only was he cheating on you, but he didn't have the decency to protect against a pregnancy, or a disease that might have been transferred to you. Make your own decision, but understand that this man is not worthy of your love.
2007-05-23 10:18:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me personally, I would not be able to stay in the relationship. It's bad enough that he decided to cheat, let alone have a child with this woman. I'd file for a divorce.
2007-05-23 10:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your question is deceiving! Your situation is abnormal and you contributed to your spouse cheating. You knew and allowed it to go on. What did you expect was going to happen if he was sleeping with other woman. If he didnt care about his marriage why would he care about having another child.
2007-05-23 10:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You gotta ask????? Betrayal is the only real deal buster in marriage hon... how DO you handle the visual of this guy pronging another woman.
What did I do??? bailed and found a prince.
2007-05-23 10:12:53 · answer #10 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋