How does this happen? And will she become attractive again?She's 14 now and very aware of her face change.
2007-05-23 10:03:01 · 23 answers · asked by ? 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Interesting how some of you understand exactly what I mean and others talk out their butts. I never said I drew her looks to her attention. YOU read into that. She has mirrors and she isn't blind but for you to insinuate that I comment on her appearance is your OWN thoughts. Wrong thoughts. And there is no acne. So - as a teen, would you have rather been nice looking or not? We all know the answer to that. I want her to be happy and go far in life. Yes, I am her aunt but she is more of a daughter to me. All of you Nasty people are sad.
2007-05-23 13:04:24 · update #1
She likely went thru a growth spurt and her features just matured...... my neice went thru a similar phase. She was a beautiful infant and youngster, but she's 12 now, and while far from ugly, just middle of the road. She's never commented on any concerns, but she's still got a beautiful personality and spirit, and that's the best part of a person. I wouldn't encourage or discourage your neice over her looks-many people go thru awkward stages, and get into a style once they get a little older that accents their stronger points (hairstyles, etc....) and I'm sure she'll find her niche.
2007-05-23 10:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I'm 13 now, and I used to be very pretty. However, I've been suffering from acne for a few years. I hope one day I can be attractive again. I'm learning to accept the fact that I may never be pretty, but I know people like me for the inside, and not the outside, even though I have a hard time believing it. You should love your niece no matter what. She probably just wants people to be able to like her for who she is, and not what she looks like.
2007-05-23 10:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well calling your niece unattractive will definitely not help her become 'pretty' again. I learned this thing in school called Attraction of Gravitation. This is basically saying, thinking positive will get you what you want, and thinking negative will get you what you do not want. Tell your niece to tell herself that she is pretty and have her believe this also. It might take a week, a month or even a year for the results to come. But I promise you will begin to see that she is "pretty" again.
2007-05-23 10:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by andy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone changes, just because your cute as a child doesnt mean your gonna be great looking when you get older.She shouldnt feel as if shes unattractive,especially at 14,thats not gonna help her self-esteem at all.Not much is going to change her back to "cute".She can try not to be so "plain" but without actually changing her face its kind of impossible to make yourself look that way again.If make up isnt a problem,try that,a different hair style that compliments her look.
2007-05-23 10:08:43 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In 3 years or less, you and she may be surprised to discover that she is a very attractive young woman. During adolescence, things all grow at different rates, and if she feels awkward and not attractive now, I hope you and she will both reserve your judgement until she has had a chance to grow into what she will become.
2007-05-23 10:10:09 · answer #5 · answered by surlygurl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's just an awkward stage some girls go through - I know just what you mean, I've seen it, too. She'll develop a more mature face, and totally go back to being more pretty. It can be really bad for the girl's self-esteem.
2007-05-23 10:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see your niece having an eating disorder and some form of body dysmorphia in the future.
Instead of fearing a case of the plain janes, I would grow up and nurture her for the person she is.
Please don't have children. If you do, send them to someone less superficial and immature, maybe they will stand a chance at a normal life.
2007-05-23 10:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
She's probably still a pretty young lady to people that meet her for the first time. Don't assist her in dwelling on this change in facial features. She'll find makeup and a style that will bring out the best in her features during every stage of her life. Please, don't let her hear you say "plain" or "unattractive" in reference to her.
2007-05-23 10:14:01 · answer #8 · answered by EvilWoman0913 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could support her in telling her that she IS beautiful by God's hands she was made to be beautiful. Also tell her to look in the mirror everyday (if being plain as you put it bothers her) and say some affirmations like when she is getting ready for bed and brushing teeth she could look in the mirror into her own eyes and say outloud "I am beautiful , capable, and God loves me". It is proven by Psychiatrists, social workers and psychotherapists to be an effective tool in promoting self esteem. YEAH it works.
2007-05-23 10:11:01 · answer #9 · answered by crownvic64 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
it is called puberty. All children go through an awkward stage. mine is going through one now and she was a beautiful little girl and now she looks.....different. I still love her and can see the beautiful traits in her that show she is going to be a beautiful woman in the end. Just love her and continue to keep up her self-esteem by dressing her in pretty clothes and doing her hair and continue telling her that you love her.
2007-05-23 10:08:28 · answer #10 · answered by j.austenluv 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋