my boyfriend and i are 20 years in age difference and have been together a year. i came in the relationship with a lil girl now 18 mos he is her daddy we also have already had a son now 2 mos. he makes descent $ but not in a good way(dangerous4all of us) he stays gone for days at a time and never spends time with us but he provides the neccessities. i love him but i didnt get in this relationship knowing this was gonna happen. its hard to leave, i havent yet. plus, when he takes the time he is a wonderful father and lover. help me please
2007-05-23 09:55:47 · 9 answers · asked by ALLISON ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to put the safety of your children first. If he truly loved you, this would be his concern also.
How would you feel if the work he does follows him home to your place and something awful should happen?
Time to make a plan and end the relationship. You and your children deserve someone who is there on a daily basis and is earning a living in a way that's not dangerous to your family.
2007-05-31 04:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by momma mia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is authentic that in case you tell him he might leave you yet photograph this, Your some years down the line, your married and have a baby with him. And all of this time the guilt of you cheating on him remains festering interior of you. So finally you tell him this decade previous secret. no longer only do i guarentee he will leave you he may be much extra coronary heart broken than he could have been. He probable wont ever communicate over with you returned. If he won't be able to forgive you for cheating on him now he on no account will and he's not precise for you
2016-10-13 05:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE listen to me. For the good of yourself and your children, find a way to get out of this situation. I don't know how your bf makes his money but if it is dangerous for all of you, why on earth do you stay???
Whether your boyfriend loves you or not you are not happy and with good reason.
Your first responsibility is to your children. They deserve to be in a safe secure home which this is not.
Go to a trusted parent or friend or to a safe house if you have to. They are listed in the yellow pages of every city's directory.
It's not too late to get out! You and the children deserve better. I will praying that you do the right thing. Good luck 'n God bless!
2007-05-29 15:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am totally in agreement with Annie's answer!
If you want to put yourself in danger that is one thing, but you have 2 small children that are depending on you to keep them safe! Yes, this is hard. He pleasures you and plays good dad when he is up to it. Supports your lifestyle. Very addicting, but if you lost your ability to feel anything in your girly parts, would he still be as attractive to you????
Is his lifestyle what you want your children to grow up and think is okay? And how soon before he is caught? And you are arrested as an accesory? What happens to your kids then?
I think you already know what the "should do" is in this situation. You are trying to make yourself want to do the right thing.
Good luck and God Bless!
2007-05-30 19:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a safe situation for you, please please tell him to make it a family life and spend time with his family, or he may not have his family for too long (you can word that as delicately as you'd like).......he has to know how you feel, and will only quit if he knows. But dont hold out too much hope for this, as seeing as he's staying gone for days at a time, there may be something else going on (????)......... But in case you decide to divorce him, be sure to document anything you can so that you have custody of the kids and he has no argument in court......... good luck.
2007-05-23 10:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by it'sjustme79 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds as if he is doing something that is illegal. anytime someone does something illegal...no good comes from it. he has the concept that he must provide for his family, but he is taking the easy way out. he needs to realize that what he is doing could be extremely harmful to your family. tell him if he doesnt stop....you will leave him!
2007-05-30 03:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by jenni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's dangerous for all of you get out of there! Those kids need protecting.
2007-05-31 05:40:43 · answer #7 · answered by elizatash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your bf loves you, no matter what the situation is...you will feel he loves you.
2007-05-30 18:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by ilovejc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it looks difficult, but i think he might love you.
2007-05-23 10:01:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋