My husband gives me no slack at all. I cant be tired, I get no sympathy if I complain, he wont let me turn on the air conditioning. I would love to get just a little bit of sympathy from him. This is my 3rd pregnancy and I feel like he just wants me to suck it up. It is starting to make me so mad. Any suggestions.
2007-05-23 09:28:58 · 7 answers · asked by Shay 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
On Supernanny, Jo had the ignorant father of two children and husband of a pregnant woman carry around a child carrier filled with 35 pounds, and had him run after the other two children for a few hours. He instantly felt appreciation for her. It made her feel better about talking to him, too.
Communicate with him without sounding too accusatory. Tell him that you're not feeling supported by him... Some men will tell other men to suck it up and it's a kind of support system, but remind him that you are not one of his buddies and that he agreed to cherish you until death... and that his death will be coming soon if you don't get a nap every now and then! :)
2007-05-23 09:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by HP Wombat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps couples counseling would be a good idea. Couples counseling was really useful for my husband and I (though that was 2 years ago).
Your hormones might make him seem worse than he really is, but it does sound like he's not being very supportive. Be very specific in what you need from him... "honey would you do the laundry today" instead of "you never help me clean things".
I still can't get my husband to understand that 75F is too cold, but we already had that issue before I got pregnant. Usually I get him to compromise by having the A/C at 76F or 77F, but sometimes I give in. It depends. When it comes to A/Cs, both parties should give and take some, I think. Try using a fan, I'd say.
2007-05-25 16:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by Ian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't know how you've put up with it this long! But anyway, we just had our first baby & while my hubby was very understanding & supportive most of the time, there were definately times when I was intolerable. Moody as hell, a/c cranked down to 50 degrees, etc... He didn't know how to handle me & then a friend suggested getting him this book called "What to Expect While She's Expecting: For Daddies". It changed everything!!! Instead of it just being me saying "I feel like this" or "I'm going thru that," he was able to see that I wasn't the only one & that it was normal. And the book goes into great detail as to why these things are happening. Once he realized what my body & my mind were going thru just to have his baby, he changed his tune!!! I'm talking foot massages everynight, honoring my food cravings, even at 4am, the WORKS!!! I hope it works for you as well as it did for me! Good luck!
2007-05-23 16:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by Tara C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a very insensitive husband. There is probably not much you are going to be able to do to get him to slack up. I would however not even ask for permission to turn the a/c on. Being pregnant and hot is miserable.
2007-05-23 16:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by saved_by_grace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"he wont let me turn on the air conditioning"
If he is blocking your access to the thermostat by means of a weapon or physical threats, call the police.
Otherwise, turn the damn a/c on. I wouldn't see that one as negotiable, myself.
2007-05-23 16:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
sorry to break it to you but your husband sounds like an a**hole. after 2 pregers he should know what kind of symptoms you have/will have. get your tubes tied after this one becuase he doesn't care about you.
2007-05-23 16:39:26 · answer #6 · answered by belle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him to carry a small bag of sand on the belly... and see how much he'll like it...
2007-05-23 16:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by bustedsanta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋