A question so the younger ones can understand that premarital sex isn't all it's cracked up to be. HOnestly, there are sooo many questions about " sex w/ or w/out a condom/my boyfriend and I want to have sex.. "etc... I would like to have this question on record for those who have faithfully waited till marriage(like u should) and made love to their husband/wife on their wedding night. Don't people understand that when you wait until you are married you are not missing anything- Except an std or two ,maybe an abortion. It's even more amazing when you do wait!!
2007-05-23 08:48:54 · 12 answers · asked by LG 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Why would u need someone w/ experience? If it's both peoples first time you aren't going to have anything to compare it to. Right? I agree- You both learn more each time you do it.
2007-05-23 09:34:15 · update #1
And again to add... I did have premarital sex- when we first got married sex was just PART of being married. But I let God do a little work in our marriage (especially in teh intimacy area) and It is AMAZING!
2007-05-23 09:36:23 · update #2
Sorry.. just need to say that when you do it right.. MARRIAGE IS amazing and everything it is cracked up to be!!! Those who say other wise are either scared of committment or bow to their own lust and don't want to committ for fear of not gettingto sleep w/ anyone else.
2007-05-23 09:38:34 · update #3
My wife and I didn't wait till our wedding night to have sex, but my wife is the only women I have had sex with and I know for a fact that I am the only man my wife has had sex with. So in a way we did wait till we were married.
When we made the decision to have intercourse, it was done full knowing the consequences and the responsibilities of what we were doing. We picked the first anniversary of our engagement (we were engaged for more than 2 years...mostly to finish college) and you are right it was amazing.
2007-05-23 08:57:47 · answer #1 · answered by mikeae 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When you get married you on of things that you agree to is to live life together - that means that you experience everything together - the good the bad and the ugly. There are many things that you will experience for the first time together and it is a great thing to do because you have eachother to do it with - you are both walking in the dark sort to speak about many things - but at least your not alone. It is the same way with sex - yes I am sure that everyone knows about the birds and the bees before they get married - hopefully - if not that is a whole can of worms - but anyway. When you are both walking into sex blindly ie both having never done it before with anyone else there is a bond that is created that makes your marriage even stronger. After having been married for 3 years - I still think about my wedding night and how we were both really nervous, and how things have greatly improved and how we have done that together. It is something that I wouldn't trade for anything. Ofcourse there is also the peace of mind that comes also (when you are both virgins)- no STD's, you are not being compaired to any one, and you are not going to be rushed since it is your first time. There is nothing to be ashamed about - it is rare to find and honorable. Marriage is more than a piece of paper - it is a life long commitment - your sexual relationship should be a life long commitment as well. You don't test drive husband ie get married and after 2 weeks say "no, I think that I like the other guy better" - maybe I am a bit old fashion in some peoples eyes - but seeing the way STD's are and how they are getting worse and deadlier - why risk your life for 2 mins of pleasure with a guy who you might not be talking to in a week
2007-05-23 09:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quick! In fact I didn't even make it into my wife. Always wondered if I'm the only one that's ever happened to. It was just too much excitement for a 22 yr old male to handle. But it was well worth it. I'm glad I waited and the trust and respect my wife and I can share knowing we have something intimate between just the two of us and no one else is sacred.
And no I don't agree that inexperience will cause problems. Obviously it doesn't get any more embarassing then my 1st time as mentioned above, but if you are close enough to someone to have sex with them they should understand if you need practice. I've been married 3 years and it has been wonderful to get better and better at sex together!
2007-05-23 09:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by Rank Roo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't have premarital sex, then how do you know it's not all it's cracked up to be? Yes, I think most of these kids should wait. No, most of you are not mature enough to be having sex. Also, no one is teaching kids anything correct about it. I did not wait until I was married, but I did not have sex as a child, and I have never had any STDs or abortions. I am also very proud of one of my best friends because he is still a virgin.
2007-05-23 09:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by curiousgirl07 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My own parents told me that if I waited until my wedding night, I'd probably be disappointed. ESPECIALLY cause you have no idea what you are doing and what if your partner is crappy in bed? That's something you'd want to know BEFORE you married him/her, right?
However, I do agree with your point that so many young teens are on here asking questions that reveal their immaturity about sex. I honestly think that kids need to be better informed to make better decisions and they should in no way be having sex and fooling around as young as they do because they are not mentally and emotionally mature enough to handle sex.
HOWEVER, marriage is seriously overrated. If I had waited until I was married or at least in love with someone before having sex with them, I would have never gotten laid EVER and that's not cool. Sex is a beautiful thing and it should be enjoyed, but marriage certainly isn't the only place for it. That's pushing your religious/personal beliefs on others. What we need for today's kids is good guidance and good role models to instill self-confidence in them so that they know that sex is not the way to be popular or to create a sense of self-worth.
2007-05-23 08:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
my husband only slept with 1 other girl before me, but we were having sex for 3 years before we got married. I think perhaps waiting and abstaining for a long term relationship is better than waiting all the way for marriage. That level of inexperience and naivete is kind of unacceptable in today's world, but no reason why someone couldn't wait a long time before becoming intimate with someone.
Sorry that I deviated a bit from your original question.
2007-05-23 08:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by JaneDo 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Didn't save myself until I rededicated my life, but me and my husband abstained. The feelings was very liberating and holy. There was no guilt and it was VERY emotional. I cried (not sobbingly) for about two weeks every time we made love. I wasn't crying because I was sad, just amazed at how great I felt - it was so much more than physical.
2007-05-23 08:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by K B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'm 17 and my bf is 18. we don't plan to do anything like that. i know it would just be a a big regret. we're happy as we are anyway, probably more happy than someone our age who is havnig sex, once they do it, the relationship just becomes sex. i'm too young to be a mother, i wanna live my life! i also want it to be special...i'm waiting 'til my wedding night..
there's still a few ones out there, don't you worry!
2007-05-23 09:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by Wibb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Congrats! I thought there weren't any respectable youngsters left on yahoo answers! As far as your question goes, I think I keep that answer to myself, thank you. Now ya'll are treddin' into things that should be kept private. But I appreciate the two points!
2007-05-23 08:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by mo_junk_master 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are totally Right
It is well known that when ever a girl begin having sex she can never stop it, and even if she did, or if she dont care
the biggest problem is making love with more than one man make girl always not satisfied with her husband, bec. she always remember her past sex affairs and fell may be they where much good, and that may lead her to search for another bed partner and may be destroy all her life
And you are totally right she will wn and never shall miss any thing if she wait to be virgin until her marriage
and make her first time sex with her husband, that will make her more satisfied and will make her love her husband more and more.
2007-05-23 08:56:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋