ok me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 4 years and well we live together... last november i thought i was pregnant because i had symptoms and well my belly was getting big. ended up having a cyst. since then we havent been intimate at all.. but i got to the point where i want to have a baby.. but i get no imput on his part i know he wants to but i dont know what and im ready what should i do?
2007-05-23 08:14:45 · 13 answers · asked by christie* 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well before you go and have a baby you 2 should sit down, you tell him that you want to have a baby and you want to know his input you also need to discuss how you are going to take care of the child, etc etc because getting pregnant unplanned can leave you in situations you are not sure how to handle. Everything should be discussed. as far as the cysts, a year ago i found out i cysts also. So good luck!!
2007-05-23 08:18:18 · answer #1 · answered by Hopin_2b_pg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he might be all that interested in having a child if you haven't been intimate? I think you both need to have a serious heart to heart before you decide wether or not now is the right time for you to have a child, because it may not be the right time for him! The last thing you want to do is get pregnant and your relationship fall apart, and be left alone to raise a child! Talk to him!
2007-05-23 08:22:52 · answer #2 · answered by ky_montgomery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and bf are intimate for such a long time it's time to consider finding a new relationship if you want a baby. And with your medical problems, why not ask your Dr. first before getting preggers just to make sure you will be ok. Good luck :)
2007-05-23 08:19:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something really serious. So you guys have to really talk about this and be sure this is what both of you guys really want. Have a plan on how to support the baby and everything. Don't wait til you are pregnant then figure it out because it'll cause a lot of stress. Goodluck.
2007-05-23 08:50:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why now?
You're being very vague. What is your financial situation? What support do you have? How about a job? How old are you?
Just because YOU are ready to have one doesn't mean your finances are ready.
First get rid of as much debt as you can and work on getting stable jobs (if you don't have any already) and buying a house.
Also, talk to him. Communicate. You NEED a solid relationship for a child. Trust me on this one.
2007-05-23 08:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The very best advice that any amateur on the internet can lend you is to check with your doctor. this is a decision that must be made with their medical adivice in the mix.
If you had an issue in your belly before, you cannot expect strangers on the internet to tell you how to run your life.
Please spring for a doctor visit. If you have a baby now, you could be asking for more worries than your doctor can help you solve down the line.
2007-05-23 08:20:56 · answer #6 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should talk to him about it but the thing that worries me is that you said "I know he wants to but i don't know." Make sure you are absolutely ready and if you are, you should talk to him. A great relationship is strong with communication. You need to talk to him.
The only other piece of advice I have is that you should really get married before you have a kid. After your wedding and honeymoon, then I would start talking about kids.
Hope I helped!!
2007-05-23 09:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by Matt's Wifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you havent had sex I would question if he wants a baby. he seems to be avoiding the lets have a baby thing or he would want sex. he needs to fess up what he is thinking.
2007-05-23 08:20:12 · answer #8 · answered by stefani h 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he won't talk about it and you all aren't having sex, then I don't see how you all could have a baby and be happy together.
Good luck.
2007-05-23 08:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him
im ready to have a baby
if hes afraid you have to tell him theres nothing to be afraid
of
good luck
2007-05-23 08:18:20 · answer #10 · answered by miss kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋