I said yes I know I love him but lately finding my emotions all over the place about getting married and I find myself pushing him away. He is a sweet person but a bit clingy and I am not use to it. I need some advice fast because i am going crazy here.
2007-05-23 06:26:36 · 28 answers · asked by me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't do it! The fact that you're withdrawing from your fiance should be clanging like warning bells in your head. Proceed with caution. If you're unsure please don't marry him. Yet.
Are you ready to spend the rest of your life with a clingy man? You say you're not used to it. If you marry him, get used to living with it the rest of your life, my dear.
Please cancel your wedding, *now*. Or at least postpone it until you know you want to spend the rest of your life with this man, both the positive and negative sides of him.
2007-05-23 06:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by ~RedBird~ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey babe, its okay, don't fret. Here's the deal...It sounds like a case of cold feet or you are totally lying to yourself about how much you truly love this dude. You used the word "clingy" to describe this negative about him and that is what is troublesome. A couple who is getting married should be "clingy" towards each other because they are about to embark on a life together...its only natural. If that is what is truly bothering you...you shouldn't be asking society for help but rather go to your future life partner and share these feelings with him...really open up to him and you may be surprised that even he will have some suppressed or mixed emotions about this wedding as well. If you go on to marry this man without solving these problems before...you and he will just be another American divorce statistic. Sad...but very true. Good luck sweetheart...I wish you both a happy and successful marriage.
2007-05-23 06:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First it sounds like your getting cold feet....It's all about how your going to feel on the day and after the big day. Second you have to look deep inside of you and figure out if your just scared about committing yourself or are you just falling out of love with him? Third what do you think, personally, will happen if you stay with him? Do you think things will get better ?? Do you think they will get worse? Also don't be afraid to tell your man these things either even if you think they may hurt him. Comfrot him and let him know that your trying to help the both of you make the best of the sitation and if he can't accept you being up front and honest about it then maybe it's better off if you leave. Any man or woman who won't listen and try to understand where your coming from (provided your not pointing the finger and letting your emotions get the best of you) you can do better !! Good luck !!
2007-05-23 06:33:27 · answer #3 · answered by the_wicked_itch_of_the_west 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The main question you have to ask yourself is do you want to spend the rest of your life with this man? Marriage is never easy, it takes a whole lot of work. Could be that you're just having the famous cold feet..could be that you're truly questioning your future. Only you know what your heart truly wants. I'd suggest some serious soul searching to find out what you want. Clingy is never a good thing, but have you tried talking to him about it? Maybe he's not even aware that he does it..be honest, with him and yourself. If you're not 150% sure you want to marry this man, ask for some time. Talk to your fiancee about delaying the wedding...
I wish you the best...
2007-05-23 06:32:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there. It is usually a bit wierd when it comes so close to the wedding day. One thing you dont want to do is go into a marriage with doubts. If you can see yourself with him in the future, then you should be able to communicate with him and make sure you two are on the same page. You would rather talk now than make a decision you will regret for the rest of your life.
2007-05-23 06:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by jigyarjan818 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are just getting cold feet. It's normal. At the same time, you should really think about if you really want to be with this person your not. Do you see yourself with him for the rest of your life? If yes, then get married, but if it's a yes and no, why don't you guys just stay engaged a little longer. Think about.
2007-05-23 06:32:30 · answer #6 · answered by 0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing. I have been married for 6 years. I was terrified because I wondered if I would be a good wife and if I would know how to handle that relationship. My husband is clingy too but I talked to him about needing my space and he gives it to me. You need to communicate your feelings with your intended. Always keep that open. Tell him you are nervous or apprehensive, he may feel the same way too. My husband was not nervous and didnt question the decision to marry. He said that he settled all those feelings when he asked me to marry him. Dont lose a good guy because you are emotional. That is normal.
2007-05-23 06:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR PENDING NUPTIALS
Now down to the business at hand. It may just be nerves but it could be gut instinct. Only you know which it is. Is he clingy or are you stressed out from planning a wedding? Take some time to think abut it and write it down so that it makes sense to you then do what you feel comfortable doing.
I hope this helps.
2007-05-23 08:13:31 · answer #8 · answered by msijg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rethink that marriage.
You should never commit with serious doubts.
Perhaps it is cold feet, perhaps not.
A friend of mine is going through a divorce right now because she cannot take the clinginess anymore and it has gotten worse over the course of their 14 year marriage.
2007-05-23 06:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The one and only thing you can do is believe in yourself and how you feel. Do not get married because you feel you have to, that is not the right way to start a life together. Talk to him tell him how you feel he may be able to put you more at ease. Good luck!
2007-05-23 06:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by gotquestions 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋