i just broke up with my BFof two years. i felt like all we had together anymore was sex on the weekends. i kind of wanted a more meaningful relationship and i wasnt getting it out of him. in the meantime my best friend decided she wanted away from her husband and moved across the entire US and get a divorce. that was all about 8 months ago if not more. now ive been hanging out with him and weve realized we get along really well. ive known him for at least the last 6 years and hes kinda watched me grow up. hes 23 and i just turned 18. our families know eachother very well. hes finally asked me if i want to hook up for somthing to do. id like to but the families wouldnt take to the idea too well and his SOON to be ex wife may not take is so easily either... and i think my dad would be very angry. i dont know what to do. im just kinda waiting to see what happens...
2007-05-23 06:25:57 · 8 answers · asked by Cheese 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How long ago have you broken up with your BF? The both of you are just looking for a rebound. You both just like the attention that you both are getting from each other. Separate your feelings from being flattered.
2007-05-23 06:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by 0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at the big pic...there is a reason he is getting a divorce, regardless of the reason, whether he decided or the soon to be ex wife. Right now he probably wants someone to chill with and probably get some from every now and again. Even if he is about to be divorced...bottom line he is still married. You don't want that label of being an adulteress. Be friends with him, listen to his issues but don't put yourself in a place where something can happen in the heat of the moment! Once his divorce is over and you still want to pursue him, them give it a shot. Until then, wait. If he wants you now, he can respect the fact that you want him with no attachments! Good luck.
2007-05-23 13:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lil_MissVal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear, you are 18 which legally makes you of legal age to do what you want, except drinking. But if I was you, I would at least wait until he tells you and shows you the paper stating that the divorce is final. That way his soon to be ex-wife can not come back and say that he has committed adultery. You see what I'm saying? As far as your family, I would wait and see where things are going with this guy first before I say anything to them just yet. Lots of luck
2007-05-23 13:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by don't know me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sooner or later your dad will have to get used to the fact that you are now an adult, and are in charge of making your own decisions - and yes, your own mistakes. He might think it would be a bad move for you to date this or that person, but you are the one who has to make the final decision, he cannot do it for you. If it feels right to date this person - then go for it. Sure, you might get hurt; it happens in relationships. But don't let this stop you from taking risks.
2007-05-23 13:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what do you think his idea of "something to do" will be??? I would also be curious to know the reasons behind his "soon to be x wife" decided she wanted a divorce.
PLEASE do NOT get involved in another sexual relationship.
THEN let's see what happens.........
2007-05-23 13:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his soon to be ex lost the right to say anything when she left, second , never chose another over your family, cause family lasts and relationships may not
2007-05-23 13:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remain friends with him for now. Nothing too serious since he is just starting his divorce. Just be there for him.
2007-05-23 13:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet your best friend didn't just decide to pick up and leave...
there is more to her just changing her mind - she left for a reason.
2007-05-23 13:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋