Ordering the same as someone else is having?

Question

At a restaurant, is it rude to order the same dish someone at the table has already ordered (as it narrows everyone's tasting possibilities) or is it rude to pressure someone to order their second-choice dish in order to have a wide variety of dishes at the table?

(I'm not talking about formal business meals with clients, of course)

Answer 1

I don't order expecting to get a taste of someones meal. I expect to eat what I order and nothing more. Nor do I order with the idea everyone else is getting a taste of mine either! If I did do that, it would be with family or my best friend only and would be discussed ahead of time.

Answer 2

It is never rude to order the same dish as someone else you can put it down as you both having excellent tastes. As for ordering other dishes that is acceptable in restaurants such as Chinese, Japanese, Indian and other Asian, Middle Eastern countries but personally I do not want anyone to ever try and eat food from my plate. It is what I ordered and that had a choice to order the same.

Answer 3

I don't think it's rude to order the same as someone else. When I've eaten out with friends, we've never done the taste each other's dinner thing anyway, but I should think you can order what you want, especially if you're paying.
AS for pressuring someone else to order a second choice, I think that is rude. Again, each person should order what they want.

Answer 4

You should order whatever you feel like having. I used to think that all of the "tasting" from everyone's plates was fun but I usually try to just do that with my husband now. It gets old and annoying after awhile when you have to spend the first 10 minutes of the meal asking everyone at the table if they want to try something from your plate. Maybe I'm just getting old but it seems a little immature at this point.

Answer 5

Rude? Everyone's tasting possibilities? Only if you are verrrrrry friendly or close family. That should not be a consideration.

Also, do not ask for a taste. Only accept one if someone else offers you one.

If it is someone with whom you share regularly, though, why would it be rude to order what you want? even if someone else already ordered the same?

Answer 6

I order what I want. I have never ordered anything so that other people at the table can taste it because it's different. If someone wants you to order your 2nd choice I would tell them to order it if they want it so badly.

Answer 7

Not if you have the same tastes. Ordering *for* someone while they are still at the table is another story (unless they are little kids).

Answer 8

With certain close friends and family, I will share my food. For example, if I'm out with my mother and we're both torn on what to order, she'll order one thing and I'll order another. Then we'll split both items. However, if I'm really in the mood for something that she ordered, I'll order it too. There's no need to share food every time.

Answer 9

Err on the side of caution and order something different.

Ordering the same thing may or may not be considered rude, but ordering something different eliminates that chance of being considered rude altogether.

Answer 10

You don't want to be a winpy people-pleaser who would not even order what you want just in case someone else might want to play a game with your food. Believe it or not, wimps are higher maintenence than people who have a mind of their own, because a wimp needs constant approval.

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