Ok I'll start from the beginning. A few months ago my doc prescribed me a new medication. I know I'm not supposed to drink while taking meds but there have been a few times when I did (my bday for example). Well those few times I did I had very bad reactions to it. I completely blacked out and became quite beligurant with my boyfriend. I honestly don't remember any of it. There have other times when I've drank and been fine. So to continue with my story, my best friends bday is today and she's having a party friday at a local bar. She isn't exactly the best friend in the world but I've know her for years and would like to go. My boyfriend is really pushing that we not attend due to the recent past events that occur when I drink. I've very torn right now because I want to go but at the same time I completely understand where my boyfriend is coming from. What should i do? How do I talk this through with my boyfriend and my best friend and without hurting someones feelings? Errrr!!!
2007-05-23 05:57:58 · 29 answers · asked by Bonzilla!! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My answer is for you to go to your party if you think you would enjoy it. The only problem I could see is a DWI. Take the bus to the party and take a cab home. Other than that you have nothing to worry about.
And to the 15 people who said to go but not drink, that is easier said than done. You go to a bar with everyone buying everyone drinks you will drink and thats the end of that "easy fix". Once you are handed a shot you will end up buying your drink of choice. Enjoy and be safe.
One more thing, we don't know what drug it is that you are taking. If that drug isn't a heart medication, or something that keeps you alive...why could you not take it the day or evening you decide to drink? I dunno, I'm not a M.D..
2007-05-23 06:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend should go with you to your friends party. Ask her if t is alright. if other guys are going chances are its cool. If not get a girlfriend you know he trusts to go with you instead. Usually its more the merrier at any party. Tell him you will stick with club soda or sprite all night. If you do have a drink stick to one. Just one. I dont know if there will be food at the party so eat a cheeseburger/hamburger/turkey burger. that has been said to help not get you drunk as quickly... if you drink on an empty stomach then you can get wasted pretty fast depending on your tolerance level. Anyway - eat, one drink, and have your boyfriend/friend make sure it is just one.
Good Luck, Hope you have fun!!!!
2007-05-23 13:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go but not drink. Yes I know its not as fun but at least you still get to go and your your friend will be happy you showed up.
It doesn't sound like you should be drinking at all with the meds your on if you are having such bad reactions and I totally understand your boyfriends point of view. You should also talk to your doctor about drinking on the meds.
2007-05-23 13:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by flowers4eden 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm on meds also and I have just had to learn to have some self control. I don't get completely drunk anymore. I have learned that I can have more fun just getting a really good buzz going. If I limit myself that I don't have harsh reactions. You can't stop "living" just becuse of meds, but you can make small changes where you can still have fun without putting yourself or others in danger. Talk to your boyfriend, if you are willing to cut back then he should be willing to support your lifestyle.
2007-05-23 13:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by The Rage 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everybody gets in drunken fights with their bf/gf. It's normal.
I don't know what Meds you're taking, but can you stop / skip a day?
Or just have a couple drinks, not enough to get smashed. Have a drink, then a water, then a drink. Cheaper bartab too.
But if you are going to go and get smashingly stupid, will you email me where and when so I can enjoy it?
2007-05-23 14:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The solution I have in these kind of situations is to take the medication at a different time if possible. in the evening or the next morning when i'm right again. would that help? just "forget" the meds for one day.. it is not completely correct, and maybe with your meds you shouldnt do that, but for me it works on occasion :)
2007-05-23 15:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by freebird31wizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not very complicated, go but don't have an alcoholic drink. Stick to club soda, virgin Mary or something similar. Tell them you are watching your weight so you have to cut the carbs. If worse comes to worse, have a glass of wine and a glass of water. Every time you take a drink of wine, take a drink of water. You'll be fine all night.
2007-05-23 13:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by Richard W 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could always go to the party and just drink virgin drinks.
You could also talk to the both. Let them know how you feel, and remember, BF/Friends come and go but, there's only one of you. Who's more important?
2007-05-23 13:03:28 · answer #8 · answered by Bunny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go, but don't drink alcohol. You can have just as much fun. Just order soda or water with lemon. It's better that you don't risk acting rude because the alcohol and meds don't mix.
2007-05-23 13:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
here is what i would do, i would call my friend back and let her know you would really like to go but considering of past events i cant go , maybe you could just spend a different night out just the two of you and not drink...like go shopping or go to a movie that way, your boyfriend wont get mad if yuo best friend is really your friend will understand, if she dont then it is her lose not yours
2007-05-23 13:06:27 · answer #10 · answered by angelsrose_01 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋