2007-05-23 05:29:37 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Umm yes they are always bad. If you are in bad marriages get out of them.
2007-05-23 06:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because you are looking for an answer on the outside of the relationships. You both need to tend to what is going on in your own marriages and seek counseling before either one of you hook up together. Just remember that misery loves company and often the affair is magnified to being more than what it is. The reality dosen't hit untill both marriages are over and the real world rushes in. It always appears fun and erxciting when you are not together 24-7.It is true that the grass isn't always greener on the otherside. No spouse that you are having problems with needs to use an affair as to why the marriage ended. The spouse that you decide to leave from needs to understand that it was all about the two of you and not blame it on the other person. If you break up over the fact of cheating the present spouse will never learn from their mistakes in a way that could better their life for a new future relationship. After a marital break up everyone needs time to accept it including children and close family members. After sometime it is more probable that the person you are having the affair with will be treated more appropriately. Two families are involved here and each family needs time to adjust to the breakup.....another person filling the spouses shoes right away is just a bad way to do things. The immediate relationships need to be cleaned up first. If you stay in your marriage and continue to cheat it is just plain wrong to live a dishonest life and treat the present spouse with disrespect that person wether good or bad to you deserves to know what is going on his/her life and make a choice to if you can't make it for them. Good luck sweetie.
2007-05-23 06:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the marriages are that bad, get out of the marriage first! Then you are free to do whatever with whoever. Any affair when you're married is not a good thing because there are more people involved than just the two having the affair.
2007-05-23 05:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by classic1957gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Extramarital affairs are never okay. Both people should get divorced and then pursue anything that remains. Otherwise, there will be no trust. A good relationship is built on trust, friendship and communication. A fling like that is a sin, and that is one good way to make a bad marriage worse.
2007-05-23 05:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, women do it all the time and it is does not even have to be a bad marriage. There is always a married woman that will jump at the chance to go to bed with another womans man. Its a thing of power and it boosts their self esteem. Its safer than having an affair with a single woman. They are usually looking only to break up the marriage by making the grass look greener on the other side. Reality is, the grass is the same on either side the only thing that changes is what side of the fence you are on.
2007-05-23 05:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES... get a divorce if your not happy. Or maybe put that emotion towards your partner instead of someone else and try and make things work. Cheating is NEVER the answer. It doesn't solve anything. The same thing will happen to the new person when the newness wears off. So work out whats wrong between you and your partner. If it can't be mended after counceling, then get a divorce. No since in ruining their lives by your infidelity.
2007-05-23 05:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole "involved in a bad marriage" is an excuse to justify the affair. It's easier than getting a divorce, sure. Instant gratification, a break from reallity, pacifies the fear of being alone. It is a way to get out of dealing with the issues at hand.
2007-05-23 05:46:01 · answer #7 · answered by mrs. lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could have the sexiest partner in the the world, but every day for 10 years will get a little stale. As long as the two people involved know that they are sharing time, there is nothing wrong. It is only when you lie to have an affair that is wrong
2007-05-23 16:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this situation, and it is very tough. I know the desire to stick because you don't want the hassle of divorce. You love your spouce, but you also have needs. I say, if no one else knows, go for it... But make sure that you are both on the same page as far as your expectations for the affair. If you cannot agree on these expectations, don't do it. It could end up VERY messy.
If you are at all feeling guilty about the affair thing, don't do it. It will tear you up inside. In this case I suggest talking things over with your spouce, counseling, etc.
2007-05-23 06:06:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes definitely. The affair usally only compounds the problem and offers no viable solution to the original problem. Marriage counsling or divorce itself are basically the only 2 answers to bad marriages depending on the level of "bad".
2007-05-23 05:38:34 · answer #10 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you staying in the bad marriage? If you've gotten to the point of an affair then you need to step up to the plate and end your marriage give him/her a chance to find someone who respects them and loves them and is HAPPY with them.
2007-05-23 05:35:45 · answer #11 · answered by ~Angel~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋