Why is it that you flirt and send messages to me online but in real life only stare at me? I realize online it's easier, but what can I do to show I'm open? I'm a minority who attracts a lot of ya, but mostly online or timidly!
2007-05-23 05:14:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Another good question... Are you looking for one of the guys to talk to you in person or are you just curious as to why this happens to you so often?
I wonder if it has to do with how old you look, your style or who you hang out with? They might want to get to know you, but are intimidated by something.
You know a lot of guys who fit into the "professional white men 18-40" category probably feel like they have something to loose if they are actually seen with you wether it be the are married, have a GF, only have white friends, are afraid who it might look to their boss or co-workers... something like that. I wonder if most of these guys who message you are just looking at you as some exotic fantasy... I know its fairly common for a lot of more conservative guys to have those... and they are some of the creepy ones you have to watch out for cuz they only want one thing. For them its a lot easier to stare and fantazie then to walk up to a cute girl who is of a different race and just hit on them out of the blue. However its also possible that they do like you and are just unsure how to approach you... although if you wanted to be approached by them, then I am sure a smile on your part would give the real ones some incentive to try and do more then just stare.
Dan
2007-05-23 05:39:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are surrounded by the wrong dudes, apparently. Most white guys [men, in general] are intimidated by very attractive [black] women. These are usually dudes that have never been with a very attractive woman, I guess. Just make eye contact and do what you would usually do to attract a man, I don't imagine you should have to wear a sign. Either they will be receptive, or not. Though from the what you are describing, I gather they aren't being too receptive, in which case perhaps you should be the bold one and make a move.
2007-05-23 12:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by mixedup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because most men are shy and timid due to insecurity. They just know that if they venture nothing they lose nothing. A real man knows that if you venture nothing you gain nothing. Jesus made me to be bold and wild at heart.
2007-05-23 12:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by Knight-of-God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go over to the good looking one (that is not mine) and sit on there lap and say youre place or mine. 100% of the time you will get them to talk to you
2007-05-23 12:20:03 · answer #4 · answered by Marvelgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are just shy and intimdated by your beauty.
2007-05-23 12:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by Ayita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, take care anyway.
2007-05-23 12:21:22 · answer #6 · answered by Afi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Do what "marvelgirl" said.
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2007-05-23 12:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋