how i do when i know my haspend loves me but i dont make him crazy on bed or im not the cain a women of his dreams i know he loves me but still having the feeling inside me (insecure)
2007-05-23 05:05:06 · 19 answers · asked by MAR10 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I go threw that everyday but my common-law partner says he did'nt fall in love with me for my looks, he has been all over the place and has seen alot but he liked my innocence. He tells me I am the strongest lady he has ever met and he is proud to say I am he's soulmate. That goes alot deeper than looks and shape. He makes me feel beautiful even though I know I'm not perfect. Who is?I am a good person inside and he makes me feel beautiful, that is something alot of beautiful people may never get to experience.
2007-05-23 05:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by jeannie f 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all you are the only one who has to love yourself. If you do that it won't matter what your husband thinks. Second of all, if you want to be pretty on the outside too there are plenty of ways to change your appearance. For example, if you are overweight- diet, exercise, liposuction, that thing when they put a band on your stomach. If you have not the best face ever- nose surgery, hair removal, they can break your jawline and change it so it is softer, etc. There is a million ways both surgically and not to change how you look. Get a new wardrobe.
Also, if you are not the kind of woman he wants in bed, watch porn and learn from it. Do what those girls do. Buy books, games and other things to make the sex better.
2007-05-23 12:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by answermaster 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a man tells a woman he loves her for whats inside her more than the outside, she has truly found true love and theres nothing wrong with that. This is the kind of love that endures everything, conquers all, an lasts forever. This is the kind of love that God had destined for all but few are lucky enough to find. Most people worry moreabout the outside image they portray to others, than the image that actually matters. Women think that all these beautiful models have the perfect life and live happily everafter when in fact they dont. Their beauty works only so long but whats inside us stays with us forever. You should be very proud of your man as his kind are hard to find.
2007-05-23 12:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did he tell you he loves your inside and you assumed that meant you were ugly, or did he actually say he doesn't love your outside?
If you assumed it, then stop. You need to love yourself and can't expect someone else to love you if you don't love yourself.
If he told you that.. I would discuss it with him and ask if he was just trying to seem senstive by loving your insides, or if he truly isn't attracted to you.
There must be intimacy for a marriage to survive so if my husband wasn't attracted to me I would not stick around. i couldn't be with someone my whole life if he didn't love me both inside and out. You should have known this before marriage though. If this is just an insecurity issue then you need to talk to him or posibly a therapist. I hope for your case, that is the case and its not that he was that much of a jerk.
2007-05-23 12:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by Rae T 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Appreciate it. So many men aren't like that so it sounds like you have a good one. If he says he loves you don't worry about it. He married you for you not your looks or anything else. Do something good for yourself to help your own self esteem. Go get your hair done or have a night out with the girls. Take a college class. It's amazing what a class can do. It really boosts your confidence when you learn something new. Engage in hobbies together. Volunteer at your local animal shelter. Animals too have a way of boosting self esteem cause they love us no matter what too.
2007-05-23 12:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by fourzenuff 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That has to be hard. You can have the most wonderful marriage in the world, and know that the other person loves you, but you still need that intimacy to make things really work. Maybe talk to him and ask what you can do drive him crazy in bed. Who knows, maybe you guys can work on that part to make it better...
2007-05-23 12:20:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone is beautiful in some way. Some on the outside, some on the inside. A lucky few are both. Be happy that your husband loves you. To him, you are beautiful.
2007-05-23 12:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by retropink 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Been there. What he probably means is that he loves who you are and that is a turn on. That is the kind of interest that makes marriages last for a lifetime. Someday we will all be old and wrinkled, you will still have what he likes best about you.
2007-05-23 12:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by Jean H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a man who truly loves you. Don't push him away with your insecurities. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and in your husband's eyes, you are beautiful. Trust his judgement and enjoy your marriage, girlfriend!
2007-05-23 12:21:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well your husband liked something about you or he wouldn't have married you. Maybe there's something about himself he doesn't like but it's easier for him to put you down. tell him to take a look in the mirror. maybe he doesn't know how much that statement hurt you. You should let him know it did.
2007-05-23 12:38:06 · answer #10 · answered by Sunshine! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋