If my husband doesn't come home at night..does that mean what I think it means?

Question

My husband goes out almost every night to the bar and sometimes does not come home at all. He swears that he is not cheating, but sometimes stays gone for up to 5 days because of a small disagreement that we have had. Do I get out of this, or deal with it? How do you know if there is another woman?

Answer 1

YES HE IS. AND YOU CAN TELL ALL THE SIGNS FIST

1.COMES HOME LATE OR NOT AT ALL.
2.STARTS AN ARGUEMENT SO HE CAN LEAVE THE HOUSE.
3.SMELLS GOOD BEFORE HE LEAVE OR BUYS NEW BOXERS
4.TAKES A SHOWER BEFORE HE LEAVES OR COMES HOME AND TAKES ONE WHEN HE IS OUT LATE
5.YOUR NOT GETTING THE SEX LIKE YOU USE TOO
6.CHECK HIS BOXERS FOR STAINS AND YOU KNOW THEY WERE CLEAN BEFORE HE LEFT OUT AND DIDNT HAVE SEX WITH YOU
6.MONEY IS LOW OR CREDIT CARDS TOO HIGH
7. MATCHES IN HIS POCKET OR ANYTHJING THAT CAME FROM A HOTEL.
8.LOOK FOR ANY PICS THAT ISNT YOU.
9.AND ANY UNDERWEAR IN HIS POCKETS OR UNDER THE MATRESS.
10.SMELLS LIKE PERFUME OR SEX AND ITS NOT YOUR SMELL

ANY TWO SIGNS OF THE ABOVE HE IS CHEATING ON YOU.
AND YOU NEED TO THINK LONG AND HARD IF YOU WANT TO STAY IN THE MARRIAGE.

I WOULD LEAVE CAUSE HE WILL DO IT AGAIN AND AGAIN. AND YOU DESERVE TO BE TREATED BETTER AND NOT BE DISRESPECTED.
YOU ARE HIS WIFE AND HE NED TO REALIZE THAT.

GOOD LUCK BUT START SEARCHING NOW.

Answer 2

Get out and run as fast as you can in the opposite direction. I hope there are no kids involved. My husband and I are going through a tough time right now as we speak. But he has never done anything like that. It sounds like he needs to grow up and get over his self. He may not be cheating. So don't look at that. Just look at the fact that he can't handle a minor situation and hes got a lot of growing to do. He doesn't respect you because he stays gone days at a time and you deserve a man, not a little boy!!

Answer 3

I would give him a chance to explain. If he's constantly getting drunk, he may be staying away until his hangovers leave and he thinks you've cooled off from your latest disagreement.

If you really want to know for sure, go through his pockets for strange phone numbers, matches from hotel rooms, strange perfume scents or lipstick on the collar. Keep an eye on the phone bill and any other places money is going when it shouldn't be.

If you have the money, you can hire a PI to follow him around. If it turns out he is cheating and marriage couseling doesn't work, put a freeze on your joint accounts or close them entirely, change the locks on your doors and throw his clothes out. Get yourself a good attorney, go to court, provide all of your evidence (inc pics, videos, taped phone conversations, etc) and get a divorce asap. And make sure that HE ends up paying all court costs. Nail that sucker to the wall.

Answer 4

You never know unless you find them with the other girl (which you really don't want to do BTW). Regardless of if he is or is not, being gone for 5 days because you had an argument isn't healthy. I have a rough relationship and I wouldn't even think of pulling that one. Would it help if he was just an alcoholic and went on binge drinking trips? I think not.

Why are you being a door mat for him to walk all over. Go look at your bank account and credit cards and see where the money is going. If he's out for 5 days, where do you think he's staying? Are their hotel receipts, large money withdrawals? If he's not at a hotel where do you think he is.

I'd just get out unless you really like being alone and he's paying all the bills (in that case maybe you like leaching off him). Life's too short for that garbage.

Answer 5

Chances are, he could be cheating however, he may not. The issue here is, why do you allow him to treat you this way?

You need to start standing up for yourself and command from him the respect that goes with being in a relationship.

If this were my guy, he'd be gone in a heartbeat...this way, he can stay out drinking until he passes out anywhere at all, just not while he's with me.

Answer 6

At first I was going to say: "What are you just stupid, blind, naive or all three?" Then, I thought about it...you are just a doormat for that jerk. When, you decide to wake up and smell the p***y (sorry to be so crass, but that is how it is in the real world, hon..) then and only then will you kick his abusive *** to the curb and move on with your life. He might not be cheating (yeah, right...) but he surely doesn't give a damn about your feelings the way he is treating you. Go see a lawyer and then do what you gotta do, baby!

Answer 7

okay this would automatically tell me that there is another woman . I would be checking his cell phone and email accounts and other such things . dont be a fool when in doubt check him out as the old saying goes . I would be so done with him . why do you allow this behavior ? Let me tell you a thing if my hubby did not come home and he was not in jail then I would be putting his sh-- ! out on the driveway and filing for divorce . asap. You had better rethink this thing girl wise up he is behaving like this because you allow him too .

Answer 8

i think your just looking into it too much, theres prolly somthing in the house that causes this, cuz i doubt he's done this since the 1st day you guys met, so why would it start now. AND besides a person cant cause an asthma attack, unless you have gallons of perfume on ^_^

Answer 9

Think to yourself, where does he stay? If it's not in the home you both share then it's somewhere he shouldn't be. Go hunt him down in whatever bar he is in and find out for yourself. DONT put up with a cheating man, they never change and they are NEVER worth it!

Answer 10

Bail. If he's not cheating, he's doing something wrong. It could be drugs, he could be gay. Whatever. If he's got to be out of the house every night and he's not taking you with him, he's not as invested in your relationship. I know a very close friend who put up with this from his wife for 15 years. His problem turned out to be her drugs and gambling habits. The final straw was when he got arrested for her mistakes.