My wife (married 24 yrs.) typically utters, "Jesus" when she is frustrated or dissappointed in something my 14 year old daughter does or doesn't do. My 18 year old daughter and I told her she should not use his name in vain, that Jesus has nothing to do with the situation. Further, I told her some people find it offensive, and out of respect she should not speak like that. She retorted, "I'll speak any way I damn well please!"
To me, this is a sign of selfishness, immaturity, and disrespect of both God and for her immediately family members that she supposedly loves. I find this particularly bad, because she knows I have high moral standards, and we even sent our two girls to Sunday school when they were children. My 18 yr old daughter played on a church basketball team for 10 years.
What do you think?
2007-05-23 04:27:37 · 19 answers · asked by Robert T 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she is Blasphemous, the she doesn't full comprehend the magnitude of her behavior. She also may not totally believe in Christ as God? Seek to understand where her thinking is and edify her strengths and let her know that's out of character for her and your concered about her ask her if there is something she'd like to talk about. my guess is the problem is bigger than a momentary frustration, but it could be as simple as a bad habit, and we all know how hard those are to rid ourselves of.
2007-05-23 04:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by patriot_corps 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Has your wife been a good wife taking care of you and the kids? Is this the biggest complaint you can come up with for her. To me, it seems selfish and disrespectful to pick an argument with her over such a small transgression. If she were screaming, yelling, throwing things around I would say that her behavior needs to change. Isn't she entitled to a release of her frustration? I am sure you make no apologies to her when you pass gas. How is this any different? Yes, some people find it offensive, but some ppl find it offensive when ppl pick fights over petty things instead of loving someone for who they are and putting up with the little annoyances.
2007-05-23 04:51:23 · answer #2 · answered by NONAME 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You also sound more than a little pious, arrogant, and holier-than-thou and I wonder how you two lasted 24 years.
If after THAT long she hasn't changed her speech, she isn't going to. Suck it up or leave your "heathan" wife. It's just a word. Depending on who you ask it's not even the true name of God.
And if he has a problem with it God can take it up with her when she dies. But, I'm pretty sure all he'll really care about is if, when all is said and done she was a good wife and mother and made the world a better place somehow before he cared about how/when she uttered his name.
2007-05-23 04:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by Atavacron 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you are making a mountain out of a mole hill here. Of all the things you could be fighting about is this the best you can come up with? Geeesh I wish that was the only complaint I had about my wife, I know she has many more complaints about me than I have of her, come on, lets get real. I like that "we even sent our two girls to Sunday school when they were little" quote of yours. Does that mean that you don't attend Church regularly, because that's how it sounds. If you don't you are being a hypocrite, so just stop.
2007-05-23 04:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Has she always been this bitchy? I doubt her disrespect and immaturity stops with using the word Jesus in vain.
That said,
Ask her nicely to find another catch phrase.
I say "Cheese and Rice!" or "Cinders and Ashes!" (from Thomas the Train out of respect for my children.
Of course, I am not always so successful, but I do apologize when I make a slip up.
Or you may have to just accept her for who she is--not like this just popped up on the radar, right?
2007-05-23 04:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by wildatheart 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you and your 18 year old daughter need to back off and leave her alone. How is it respectful of your CHILD to tell your wife how to talk?
How it is respectful of you to tell your PARTNER, not your child, how to talk?
Would you rather she said, "S*it", or "f*ck"? There are worse things she could say.
So what? You have SUCH high standards... Yet you think you are better than her? You JUDGE her???? You are the worse of the two parents because you don't live your religion, you just talk it.
It took you TWENTY FOUR YEARS to get around to bitching about this?
2007-05-23 04:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If this is a recent thing, then I suggest looking to the root of the problem. Such as how she can vent her frustrations in a less crude manner.
If its something that's always occured and its just starting to bother you know, or you hoped it change, let it go. You wouldn't like it if she suddenly started criticizing you for your religious zeal.
2007-05-23 04:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think your way too serious about this. Look at the glass half full and not empty maybe she is saying "Jesus" for him to help her. Lighten up a bit and yes I am a Chrisitan
2007-05-23 04:33:37 · answer #8 · answered by Maria 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If it offends you, then she should respect you (especially after 24 years of marriage) and not do it... It offends me too... but I can't say I have never said it... Especially when they use a fowl work next to His name...
You sound like you are very well spoken... I would suggest talking to her about it when she's in a good mood and not right after she says it... and not to discipline her about it in front of the kids...
Good Luck
2007-05-23 04:35:06 · answer #9 · answered by Oula 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Even though I am not a religious person, I do agree with you. To say His name in vain just sounds awful, as well as disrespectful.
If she must curse under her breath, how about she say "cheese and rice?"
Or....maybe not (ha!)
2007-05-23 04:34:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋