No, in the twelve years we have been together i have been out once, only because he did. Never ever cheated or given him a reason not to trust me. Same goes for him. I think we are so close in everything we do it just seems outrageous for me to do anything without him. Oh i have went out with my elderly aunts shopping on weekend trips during Christmas season.
2007-05-23 04:24:38 · 20 answers · asked by twisty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What will you ever do if you lose him (another woman, death, illness)? You need to have a life outside of your marriage. It is fine to have your husband as your best friend, but you better have hobbies, interests, outside of your marriage. I watched my M-I-L go through this after 40 years of marriage. She was devistated. She decided to sit in a chair until she died. It was very sad. We finally got her moving and she is now happily remarried (after 6 years). Trust me, make friends and a support group outside of your marriage!
2007-05-23 04:29:44 · answer #1 · answered by lee911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You husband is a control freak. You should be able to do whatever you want, go whereever you want without having to worry about how he is going to react. There is no reason on earth to give in to him and become a recluse in your own house because he is insecure. This will only become worse and you won't even see it coming when you even stop doing the shopping with your aunts on weekend trips. Husbands and wives need other things in their lives. They shouldn't only do things with each other. You are walking into a lifelong trap and you will regret it somewhere down the road. Good Luck.
2007-05-23 12:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by daisy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what you're saying is that after all these years, he still doesn't trust you? Trust is an integral part of love, and if you love someone, you will grow to trust them. My husband and I have been together for 5 years now, after being together years ago when I got scared and ran away. He never trusted me after that, but since we've been together, it's taken him probably 4 of the 5 years to really trust me, (in part because he couldn't trust his ex), but he now has complete trust in me. Keep in mind that communication is one key leading to trust. Don't hold "anything" back, always talk to him and tell him what you are thinking. If this doesn't work, I'm afraid that your marriage is doomed!
2007-05-23 11:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by karenhar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has some insecure issues going on with him. I think counseling would help, I use to be very insecure and jealous, I learned that you can't control anyone but you, and if someones going to cheat they will do it. He's driving him self nuts over nothing and this will cause problems with your marriage. The more he accuses you of something you didn't do the more he will push you away from him... good luck!
2007-05-23 11:37:53 · answer #4 · answered by Flying w/ scissors 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit and talk with him about trying new thing ,whatever. You just want his mind opened.Start with sending him out with his friends are coworkers,see how he responds.Start having girlfriends over for girls night,then venture out. Take him first to some of the places you would like to visit.Reassure him of his love and trust for you,let him know you enjoy his company
but you need a little me time with the girls.Truth is it may you both a little happier to to see the other on those nights out.I'm married for 7yrs. and we practically do everything together too.Until recently I start sending him off with our 2 girls. I love it because when he is away he sends sexy text messages .Try it I stay smiling.
2007-05-23 11:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by LADY T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your question and the body of your question doesn't make sense. If you husband doesn't trust you he needs to. That is huge in a marriage. I would demand trust. But in the paragraph under your question it sounds like the two of you chose not to go out without each other. If one of you decides to leave or dies then what your alone. Find friends and go out with them once in a while you both will find it works positively in your marriage.
2007-05-23 11:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by Maria 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you dont have trust honey, then you dont have a solid good, loving marraige. This is what a marraige is mostly based on. Next to love that is. Just tell him he needs to trust you, or he will lose you. Simple as that. It isn't fair for him to dis-trust you like he is. You probably feel like you're in bondage or something. Explain to him how his behaviour is making you feel. And that you are questioning his love for you, and the marraige. But that you want yur marrage to work. I am sure he will listen. Get his attention.
2007-05-23 11:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you haven't given your husband any reason to not trust you, I feel he needs to get some help for his insecurities. I hope he can recognize the seriousness of this. If he doesn't get it under control he may eventually sabotage your marriage. Good luck.
2007-05-23 11:29:37 · answer #8 · answered by Stacey B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe because he doesn't want other guys looking at you. When I'm with my girlfriend its hard for me to let her go shopping with friends, or even family member, its not that i don't trust her its because I don't trust other guys out there, and I think that is that same thing you are going through too
2007-05-23 11:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by vlad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything about this because it's his problem.
If you've told him where you're going and when you'll be back that's all you can do.
I wouldn't keep trying to reassure him....he should seek some professional help to find out why he has this problem.
2007-05-23 11:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋