She want to marry me?

Question

Me and my girlfriend we are together for almost 3 months. I am 40 and she is 32
I go often at her appartment and she cooks for me. We have an honest relationship (I believe)
We have discussed about the medications we both take
We met at yahoo personals.
Yesterday I introduced her at my best friend. Before that she offered me a red rose.
Somehow we had a conversation after that and she proposed me to live with her for some time and marry her. That was suddent.
Its not that I don’t want but is it too early?
I have never been married and I don’t know what should I do and what movements so this can be succesfull. Maybe some more time to establish that we or she really is what she wants?
Please give some advices according to your experience
Thank you

Answer 1

I'd give it at LEAST a year before I decided on such a huge step. 3 months is not enough time to decide if you want to spend the next 40 or so years with someone.

Answer 2

If you are feeling that it is too soon to be living together - say so & state to her that the reason is not that you don't want to live together eventually, just that you are still getting to know one another and hasty decisions can lead to trouble & that is not what you want to have happen to your relationship. As for marriage, talk about it, but understand that while you may even decide early on this is the one you want to marry - it's just a ceremony that celebrates the levels of commitment already acheived between you both -first! After you have gently let her down - which really is what your doing - be sure to do things that support that while your not living together & your not planning the wedding, the level of committment to a successful relationship are there - such as spending quality time together doing nothing more then reading the sunday paper together and planning the day or next days activities. Spedning time alone going to a comedy club and spending the night together - pick one night a week (minimum) that is specifically "your" night - wherein the two of you decide to spend it together alone, w/friends or w/family or whatever - so long as the two of you are together for the whole night doing whatever you want & getting to know one another.

This is not to say that if you already feel as though you are ready to comit to living together and have disscussed the challenges and expectations - note did not say the outcomes because nothing is ever 100% - if all your details have just been talked about - then go for it - happiness coes far too little in life & if you truley feel you have found - grab onto it & NEVER let go.

Woman feel the need to forward- always forward - men are happy to let a ood thing remain a good thing - once the woman begins to feel as though it's good but needs to be better - the man kicks in and does something to make it better and then let's it be till next time. Understnading that difference may help you.

Answer 3

She is probably looking at her age and her biological clock is ticking. Don't get scared and run. Maybe she has been searching for someone like you for a while and thinks she found "the one". Tell her that you think you guys should continue to date a while longer.

My best friend met a guy and three months later they moved in together and then she ended up getting pregnant two months later. They have been married for 7 years and have two beautiful children. That worked out great for them.

However, my aunt moved in with a guy after knowing him for 6 weeks and they ended up getting married and got divorced three months later.

Don't base your experience on any of theirs. Each relationship is different. Don't rush yourself but don't hide behind the bushes either. Be open and honest from the beginning because trust, and communication are what makes a relationship work.

Answer 4

It's way too early you should spend more time getting to know her better over 50% of marriages fell don't add to that # fall deeper and deeper in love with her, learn her inside and out before you take that big step and if she wants to be married she'll understand and wait until the time is right time will tell. I meet my husband in 2002 we were married in 2005 and I love him to death but we are still learning about each other so give it time and follow your heart! Good luck!!

Answer 5

Don't move in with her! She is acting like a desperate woman and you happen to be the one that she latched on to. If marriage is meant to be, you will wait for each other years. Rushing into a marriage after only knowing her 3 months could bring you a lifetime of regret. Don't do it!

Answer 6

3 months is way to soon.

Give it a year or 2. Nothing wrong with that.

You can't really have gotten to know each other that well in 3 months. Give it time, i wouldn't move in with her under a year an a half either. Unless you were engaged to be married.

Answer 7

I would get to know your girlfriend more, before getting married. A good marriage is in a great part based on friendship and it sounds like you are still getting to know each other. There is no hurry, is there? Enjoy your relationship and take your time, I'd say.

Answer 8

you marry her quickly as you will not get such partner again in your life.dont wait for try, try again.you will be able to do all those things which you are asking here as when adam and eve met,at that time there was no yahoo answers and other person even.see the earth is full of us.so dont miss any thing which is coming to you.all the best.go ahead.

Answer 9

no dont move in--yes youre correct its way to early. She either needs youre money to float the bills at her place, or she is not a patient person. If youre not ok with it yet dont do it. but then also if you want to marry this women wait for yr then do it. Youre still in the puppy love stage and you havent gotten to see all sides.

Answer 10

Tough one chap...she, and no offense, sounds a bit dodgy. Relationships aren't meant to be a "wham bam thank you mam" situation. If I were you I would step back...take a deep breath...scream like a girl and start running to the nearest exit sign. What's next? A baby before Christmas and her mother moving in with you next summer...NOOOOOO!!!!!!!So, she's 32..the clock is ticking, she wants a husband..children...and she wants it now. I'm all for starting a family...but goodness gracious....it makes you wonder...