help a shy person!!!?

Question

im shy and i don't like to talk to anyone new what should i do

Answer 1

I used to have the same problem, one summer i decided to enroll in a photography class just for fun. This was all well and good, i kept to myself and took my pictures of beaches or landscapes, until the dreadful day my teacher asked that we do 100 portraits of people we didn't know. (by not knowing what they looked like on a regular basis, we could better "capture their essence." My jaw dropped, me? talking to 100 people i didn't know? Absolutely not. As i drove home i figured out that there was an easy way to do this, testing the waters would be the best bet, not just cannon balling in. So at first i would only look for people who were walking their dogs, i would go up to them and politely ask if i could take a picture of their dog, which i didnt need at all, but it didn't require as much guts as asking them to take a picture of them. After a bunch of dogs, i moved on to children, children are easy to photograph because they don't get that "uncomfortableness" as soon as the camera is pointed at them. So i went from asking people if i could take a picture of their dogs, to asking them if i could take a picture of their kids, which is more personal and harder to do. After a dozen or so kids, i decided i really should get started on my 100 portraits. So i started off with people who looked nice to talk to, little old ladies, middle aged women, people who i could relate to. Thus far i hadn't taken any pictures of men, or teenagers cause these were the people i found it most hard to talk to. It took a lot of work because most people get uncomfortable with being photographer so instead of thinking about how uncomfortable i was to talk about them i was instead worrying about how i could put them at ease while i took their pictures. The shyness started to fade and i would find myself going up to anyone, shelling out a few compliments and asking if i could do a portrait of them. A combination of HAVING to talk to people, and doing it gradually really brought me out of my shell. Now im not saying you should go out there with your camera and start taking pictures of people, dogs and children, but you should try putting yourself into situations that you have to talk to people, example.. find a summer job in which you have to deal with public, try the camera deal if you want, just tell people you're taking a photography class no one is going to doubt you. Or pick up a hobby like fishing or something that when you go theres going to be people there who know what theyre doing and try to learn as much as you can from them by asking questions, a common bond really helps people open up and you won't feel as vulnerable if you have a topic to discuss. All in all, the shyness will fade away and you'll find yourself talking to people you wouldn't have talked to in a million years. Goodluck.

Answer 2

Learn to play a musical instrument (like guitar or piano) really well. You can entertain yourself in the living room or back yard.

BUT - hey, and this is great - you can entertain other people too! Being the musical friend - who can play show tunes and Christmas carols on the family spinet or pick 1960's folk songs on the guitar is a real ice breaker - Someone will almost always come up and ask if you know "XYZ SONG" and thereby open the door to a conversation. If you don't, you can ask him to hum a few bars and you'll fake it... or maybe you know a different song by the same composer/performer etc. Either way, it's a great way to start a conversation with someone you don't know. Remember, they don't know you any more than you know them - so they might be shy too!

And, if you're totally freaked out - you can always hide behind the instrument - just play quietly in the corner as ambient sound.

Answer 3

Probably the best approach is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which you can learn from a book. You could also take a public speaking class. Lots of shy people have to take a class like this as a requirement in college, and the teacher and the students are very supportive.
If you're looking for things to talk about, almost everybody feels comfortable talking about the weather, sports, clothing, food, pets, movies, TV, and so on.

Answer 4

You shouldn't get shy around other people, all you are doing is closing yourself off. Just remember that people are going to react to you the same way no matter what you do, because you can't change people's opinions very easily. I would forget about everyone else and just be the person you want to be. If you have something to say say it, If you don't then don't.

Answer 5

well seeing as i am shy to but i can get over it in about 25 miutes or so after being around someone i would say just to go up to the person or people u want to talk to and start talkin and see if u guys can be friends and if not just walk away nothing to worry about.

Answer 6

I Am an excessively shy man or woman. I might speak to u like I have identified u for the final five years on Y!A. But if I see you in truly existence I wont even seem at ur face. I might be hiding it with my hair or cap. I under no circumstances talked with a man or woman in truly existence except they talked with me first. But in Y!A I bet I Am quite open.

Answer 7

Don't be shy. There are so many people that you don't know, who knows, they are friendly and will help you. You just need to say "Hi! My name is ...Nice to meet u.", just the introduction, and of course, they will surely reply back to you and think that you are a nice and friendly person after all. Sometimes, we need to learn what the nature teach us. I am sure you will change your, this habit after a few month. Relax and learn to be calm as well. Good luck!

Answer 8

Well if it doesn't bother you then there is nothing wrong with it, but I guess if you ask it means you want to change, Just start slowly, talk to anyone you have a chance to, even if it's just saying hi or any comment you can think of.

Answer 9

I used to be really shy but I just randomly started talking to people who I saw everyday, but never talked to. Just walk up to someone, and if you feel nervous or really embarrassed, just take a few deep breaths and say hello or introduce yourself.
See it as practise, because practise makes perfect. Everytime you talk to someone new, it will feel easier and easier.

Some websites with tips...
http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Outgoing
http://www.wikihow.com/Become-More-Outgoing-Outside-of-School-when-You%27re-Shy

Answer 10

notice something about them like there shoes or clothes or something. and go from there if you pick something that you like about that person meaning clothes or whatever and you go and complement them on it than that would be a good ice breaker for you to start off the conversation. that works for me and i know it will work for you. im pretty shy myself so i know how you feel.