i have a question that you've probably never had before so here goes, my 4 yr old son, logan, accidentally drowned 8-19-05 and was laid to rest at chilton cemetary in the small farm town we live in. when we made arrangements and my parents spoke to the old couple who "ran" the cemetery, they specifically told them that we (me, mom, dad, siblings, etc) all wanted to be buried here and the plot right next to my son was to be for me. the plots were $100 and my mom paid for hers and my dads but not mine as i was to pay when i could. well, times are hard, i lost my job and have been in a deep depression since he died. i visit "logans place" daily and stay for hours as i am at some sort of peace there. well, last week i showed up and to my surprise there was a fresh mound of dirt w/ dozens of pink flowers and arrangements all around right next to logan! i was so upset i havent stopped crying. i ended up calling the deceased womans daughter and she said quote "im sorry, the lady said you never paid and i wanted it, i have my receipt, what do you want me to say", in her spanish accent. she stated that her mom wanted to be buried "under a tree", yet trees are plentiful at this cemetery-why next to my son? i dont wish to tell you what was said after that as it was pretty bad! what is your opinion on this and if you were faced with this scenario what would you do as the cemetary caretaker or ones in charge? thanks so much!
2007-05-23 04:02:09 · 11 answers · asked by beverly k 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I wish you peace. Do not let this keep the suffering inside you. You need to heal. Maybe have a close friend pursue the matter for you.
2007-05-23 04:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The act of selling the plot without asking you first is quite unethical because you had promised to buy it earlier. Perhaps the person thought you had dropped the interest of buying it since he did not hear from you for 2 years - but still he could have sent a word to you. Anyone would feel very bad if one is in your place.
Tell the person concerned that you were displeased about it. You need not file a case against him because it will lead to nowhere. Besides, you'll only waste money and time.
I suggest that after a few years, you could collect the bones of your beloved 4 yr old Logan and erect a new place for him somewhere where there is a vacant plot so that you could also book for yourself next to his.
Thinking and praying for you.
2007-05-23 04:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by Binnus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aside from having your son's body exhumed and relocated to a different part of the cemetary with an open plot next to it, I don't know what you can do. You didn't pay for the plot, someone who needed one came along and did, and that's that.
If I were in this situation (and I hope to God I never am--I truly feel for you--I can't imagine what it would be like to lose one of my children--especially at such a young age), I would do any and everything I could to have my son's body relocated--rob a bank, sell a kidney, etc., then be sure to PAY for the plot. Verbal agreements mean nothing. While it was kind of the old couple to offer to keep it for you until you could pay, we all know this world is ruled by the almighty dollar. They had a chance to make money, they were tired of waiting for you to pay, so they sold the plot. Sad, but true.
2007-05-23 06:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you're upset but it sounds like to me you made no attempt to make any type of payment arrangement with the cemetary for the plot which like you said was only $100 and it has been almost 2 years since the loss which I send my condolanances. It is not the cemetaries responsibility to contact you. Since your parents have already paid for theirs I would have already considered the tranactions complete and figured you weren't interested unless you were to make contact. My only suggestion is to find another plot closer to your son or possibly find a double and have your son moved so you know you're next to him.
2007-05-23 04:14:59 · answer #4 · answered by AWRAmale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything. I'm sorry and it sucks but you didn't pay for the plot and the cemetary has no obligation to you : (
Could you perhaps consider cremation and have a box installed at you sons grave for your ashes?
2007-05-23 04:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by chickey_soup 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there's much to do . She is already buried and you have to understand you did not pay for it. maybe you could have asked your parents to pay for it and there it would have been more secure and then you could've pay them back. It would have been secure then. I'm really sorry to hear something like that . It is really touching to loose someone and then loose your hope of being buried right next to them. what we do where I'm from sometimes we built cement tombs and we make it for two people . for example we burry one of the spouse first they close up that section and when they burry the other spouse they close it for good.
2007-05-30 07:23:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain but there's not much you can do other than buy two new plots, have Logan moved to the new place and sell his former resting place.
Sorry for you!
2007-05-23 04:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by love2travel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your loss. I hate to say it but maybe they thought you would somehow come up with $100. depoist in two years time. Perhaps they were just not thinking with their heart. Good luck, maybe you can still purchase a plot near your son.
2007-05-23 04:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by Marilyn T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a law that would prevent the lady from selling that plot since you hadn't bought it but I it seems that the lady was greedy and did not consider the grief she has caused you.
2007-05-23 04:16:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't pay for that plot, they have the right to sell it to anyone who wants it. They have no obligation to save it for you.
2007-05-23 04:13:57 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋