We have 3 between us-he has two... I have one from other people. We are both 30, do you think 3 is enough or should we have 1 between us also? His mom is concerned that I might be at risk because it has been 10 yrs for me.
2007-05-23 03:49:16 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
How long should you go off the pill to start trying to conceive? I have been on the pill since my son was born (10 yrs ago)
2007-05-23 03:50:06 · update #1
If you want another baby, have one. At 30, you are not really at risk for complications (unless there are other medical reasons you did not reveal). I had my middle child at 30 and my youngest at 33 - both are wonderful & perfectly healthy.
As for the pill, with my first, I went off & was pregnant within the month, but everyone is different.
Good luck!
2007-05-23 03:55:41 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To answer the question are you too old to have a baby. I have to say no. I had my last one at the age of 33 and my first 10 1/2 yrs before that. I don't think it's recommended after 35 but in my opinion if it happens it was meant to be. More tests will be done on you than the last time due to your age. My doctor made me feel downright old!!! I was probably being oversensitive, though. As far as feeling like three is enough, only you and your husband can answer that one. If the both of you agree that you want a child together then stop taking the pills, consult with your dr and have fun making it. Good luck and God bless.
2007-05-23 04:02:37 · answer #2 · answered by veronicawilliams1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not too old. my cousin had her first at 34 and a second at 36.... that is pushing it... but it was done.
You will need to talk to your doctor about all of this really in more detail as far as how long you should stay off the birth control. I got pregnant immediately after stopping birth control and my baby is fine. But I am also 21, so I am not sure if the doctor would want you to wait a month or two to get your cycle back on track.
You should also be prepared, if you are really serious about this, to try for a while.. and if nothing happens, you may want to go ahead and see a fertility specialist.
Good luck, and no way do i think 3 is too much... you deserve to have one together. You are not too old... not until you hit menopause :)
2007-05-23 03:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by ishyboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
30 is not too old to have a baby. My step mom had 3 kids in her 30's (one single and one set of twins). If you both want a baby then I think you should go for it. Don't use the baby to solidify the relationship like the guy at the top said. If you are worried about risks then talk to your doc and put your mind (or his mom's mind at ease). I don't see why waiting 10 years would cause any risk, its harder on your body to have them too close to eachother (at least that is what i've been told). Good luck, and remember that 4 is a lot, but it can be done. Good Luck to all!!
2007-05-23 04:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by Drea Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
30 is NOT too old at all!! It is after 35 that they say it is risky...and it may be harder for you to concieve having been on the pill so long, (I say this as I have had a relative and a few friends unable to concieve as they were on the pill for so long) I have 2 sons from previous, my husband has 1 and we are expecting our daughter in August, so we will have 4 and we are both so happy and excited as are the kids..my husband is 31 and I am 24
If you both feel that you would like a child than go for it,..honestly there shouldnt be any risks because it has been 10 years for you...you are at the perfect age in my opinion!!
Good Luck!!!
2007-05-23 03:55:04 · answer #5 · answered by JLee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. I have 2 from a previous relationship (ages 10 & 12) and am 11 weeks preg. with another with my husband. Go off the pill and start trying. Everyone is different going off the pill. I needed some help getting pregnant but I am 39...and my doctor had NO concerns about me getting pregnant even though it had been 10 years.
My guess is your mom doesn't really want you to have another baby.
2007-05-23 03:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by PK211 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it should be really up to your and your husband whether or not you want another child. There's no rule stating that every couple has to have a shared child in a mixed family relationship. You are not too old to have another though you may consider visiting your OB first to discuss your health and have a check up. Some women get pregnant right after stopping, other who have taken it have much longer waits up to and surpassing at times a year. If your youngest child between the 3 is 10 then there should be minimal jealousy but consider that it's another 18 years at least for both of you and that if there are younger children in the house they may feel special resentment towards another child as right now their feelings are always mixed up enough as it is if they all know that there are no blood relationship between them. One child to both of you in their minds may be considered the special child and they may feel hurt by that. If the children at older most should be mature enough to handle that. Good Luck and I hope you make whatever decision is right for your family.
2007-05-23 03:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by tylw85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww!! thats not too old at all!! my mom had me (her first and only) when she was 33. my mother in law got remarried and at 35 started trying for another with her new husband. 30 is DEF way not too old! sounds like your mom just doesnt want to start over with a new baby grandbaby! most docs will say 3-6 months once you go off the pill, but it could be greatly different for people. personally, i went off and was preggo the next month. a friend of mine went off, and it took her over a year to conceive. so it could really be a big difference! just talk to your doc, get on prenatals right away (ive heard that helps conception sooner) and start having fun trying!! :D good luck!
2007-05-23 03:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not anywhere near too old for another baby. Time passed since your last (10 yrs) is irrelevant. Sharing a child creates a very special bond between you and your partner so stop taking the pill and go for it!!
2007-05-23 03:56:35 · answer #9 · answered by Ali 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a wonerful thing for you two to have a child together! It will sort of make your family whole because then all of your kids will share a blood sibling. Plus, it's such a wonderful experiance and you've only done it once.
His mother has no reason to be concerned. You've already had one healthy baby and 30 is NOT OLD!!
If the two of you really want to, I say go for it.
2007-05-23 03:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋