My boyfriend and I have been discussing marriage. He is 25 and I am 38. We have both been married before but truly feel like we are meant for each other. He is the love of my life. My parents love him and I get along great with his family (my parents hated my ex and can see how wonderful my boyfriend is to me and how respectful he is to them).
He told me that he plans to approach my dad for his blessing before he proposes to me out of respect for my parents. Is this done anymore? I love him for even thinking of doing this but I didnt think this was a common thing anymore. What do you think?
2007-05-23 03:46:31 · 11 answers · asked by Kelly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did. It's just more respectful and starts things off on the right track with the in-laws.
2007-05-23 03:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by spjp p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can assure you that your girlfriend will appreciate the gesture of asking her parents for permission to wed their daughter so please don't skip this important tradition! There is nothing wrong with calling her parents as a personal visit seems very difficult and would possibly give your girlfriend a hint as to what is coming. The more important parent to speak to is her father - this is the traditional "asking for her hand in marriage" custom. It would be nice to speak to the mother, so consider calling when her father will be available and after obtaining his permission, call again when her mother will be available to thank her for the family's permission and tell her that you are happy to be joining her family. This will cover all bases and allow your proposal to be even more special!
2016-05-20 22:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not really common anymore. Well it is in most religions. But i think it would be very respectful for him to ask your father. Your father will have a lot more respect for your boyfriend if he does ask permission from him.
2007-05-23 03:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe it's necessary unless it's something your dad would appreciate. My husband asked both my parents (divorced) and they thought it was very sweet, but would've still been thrilled about the proposal without him having asked first.
2007-05-23 04:25:21 · answer #4 · answered by ladyinred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a sweet notion, but not necessary. Your dad stopped giving his "blessing" about your life, the first time you said "I do". But, if he really wants to go there, what could it hurt?
2007-05-23 03:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by lee911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not common. But I think it is missed like many of the traditional things we tend to discard.
2007-05-23 03:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bravo to your intended!!!!! it is still done, if not as much, and is a very respectful and meaningful thing to do. and as a side, it will let you know how your parents truelly feel toward your relationship.
2007-05-23 04:01:33 · answer #7 · answered by puertoricanhusker85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems kind of weird at your age and since you have been married before.
2007-05-23 03:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is still done and I think it is so sweet for a guy to put himself out like that, my friend used it in her wedding it was really nice
2007-05-23 03:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's sweet...
BUT you have been married once before...
If he wants to do it, let him do it-it couldn't hurt!!
2007-05-23 03:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋