I'm happily married and have feelings for someone else at my job.
We started out as friends, and I really want to make sure I remain friends. How do I turn off my romantic feelings?
BTW: I have no idea if she feels the same about me.
2007-05-23 03:27:16 · 15 answers · asked by lazlo_dei 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Been there, done that. Take my advice. Stay away from the co-worker because your feelings will more than likely grow. A friendship with the co-worker is not worth running the risk of losing your spouse!!!!
2007-05-23 03:36:20 · answer #1 · answered by glodi33 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are playing with fire! If you want to stay happily married then you do not need to pursue a close friendship with your co worker. Friends come and go.You can't turn off feelings we are not light switches. There is no button to press. The fact you have feelings for her means you have entangled in an emotional level with this woman, and that is considered cheating, Break the friendship before it wrecks your marriage. Can't have cake and eat it 2.
~Angel~
2007-05-23 03:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by ~Angel~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be happily married and have romantic feelings for someone else. If you truly love your wife then get away from that co worker and never put yourself in the position of being alone with her...
2007-05-23 03:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
An honest answer and the only thing that will work "slowly" is to try not see her. I was in a similar situation and it hurt not see him anymore, but the more I didn't see him the better it got and it made me realize I can never be with him. But the second I see him it starts all over again. My suggestion to you is to really just try not to see her if its possible. I am sure its a little tougher at work not to run into her though, but if you can try it It works. Good luck
2007-05-23 03:37:35 · answer #4 · answered by Maria 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your playing with fire on this situation, for whatever the reason you have become bored with your wife or you wouldn't have developed feelings for your co-worker.
It's not a good idea to remain friends, just walk away or deal with hurting your wife when something happens......But I do give you kudos for this one you sound like a good person.
2007-05-23 03:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run don't walk away from this situation. From personal experience feelings can quickly get out of control. A working relationship is really all thats is needed here, so why be concerned about a freindship.
2007-05-23 03:32:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As far as being best friends, dont know if you can or not. I do know that if you are in a situation where you are having feelings for the coworker and odnt distance yourself from it you are being very disrespectfull of your wife. I have many female friends but make it a point not to get too involved in their personal life, dont go to lunch with them, dont contact them outside of work. Its only common courtesy to my wife.
2007-05-23 03:37:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is stay away from temptation. That's how it starts.Were just friends and then its we just go to lunch together and then its working late and then its a whole lot of PAIN for a lot of Innocent people. Don't start something that could turn out to be your worst nightmare. Stay away from TEMPTATION....
2007-05-23 03:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by Dixie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't go out of your way to talk to her. be cordial but do not make extra efforts to see her or talk to her. this is not fair to your wife. it is almost like you are cheating on her in your mind. you need to start dating your wife again and get that spark back with her. you are headed for big trouble if you continue to feel this way and by no means should you act on your feelings. you are being selfish and not being fair to your wife. we all meet people that we are attracted to but don't act on anything. if i were the woman that you had these feelings for i would lost a lot of respect for you.
2007-05-23 04:56:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're aware of your feelings toward her and are "happily married", then why push the friendship with this lady? I think it's better left alone.
2007-05-23 03:37:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋