I have been biecurious since, I guess grade school. I am married and love my husband and he knows I kissed a girl once I dont want to have an affair but he does know that there are some girls I would be interrested it. He says at some point he finds it sexy and at some point he's scared because he's afraid i'll leave him for a girl. Which will never happen, however the thought of being (sexually) with a women is always in my head I even dream of it..I want to make like some kind of E-mail friend of some sort that I can e-mail about this ..i'm thinking if i find somone i can talk to and even be dirty with..this feeling will go away.! Any REAL suggestions?
2007-05-23 03:17:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Being a bi is not bad love, and you just said that you really love your husband dearly. Dreaming about it is natural because of who you are,so assure your husband that who you are will not change your love for him, and also he told you how sexy it is knowing that. Talk to your husband again and tell him what you wanted to do about just finding a friend on line that you can exchange email to,then from there the two of you will be more as lot closer and his insecurity will stop....
2007-05-23 03:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think rozerodriquez is probably right. If you do find someone online to talk and relate sexually to, I don't think it would be enough, it would make you want more, and eventually want a real affair. And if you have a real affair, you might want more, you could even fall in love, and then what? I'm not criticizing your feelings, but once you start the kind of relationship you're thinking of, you can't predict where it will go, and it might wind up destroying the relationship.
2007-05-23 03:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly feel this strongly about it then cyber sex will only frustrate you more and increase the strength of your feelings. I would work on building your bond with your husband in regards to you never leaving him for another woman. It sounds as though eventually he may come round to the idea of another woman joining you both. However how would you feel about him fooling around with her at the same time? He may feel this is the only way he can accept a third party in your relationship. I wish you both the best of luck whatever you decide.
2007-05-23 03:25:40 · answer #3 · answered by Chelsea Shrimper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There’s nothing wrong with being bi-curious. Many women are. BUT, you’re married, so to act on this curiosity would still be cheating, even though it’s a woman and not a man. I’m sure Hubby does find it…somewhat intriguing…but it also sounds like he would NOT be okay with you acting on these urges. You need to respect that.
2007-05-23 03:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it would stop at emails. You are having intentions on having sex with another female just because of ur sexual urges. You are contemplating cheating and this is wrong whether its male or female its wrong. If you really love ur husband u need to just not fulfill these urges and be faithful to ur husband if u feel that u desire other women and that u wont stop til u experience it be fair to your husband and let him move on to a woman that will be faithful to fullest.
2007-05-23 03:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but this is something you should have explored before you married. You took vows now and that moment has pasted. Concentrate on being a good wife and forget the other thing...
2007-05-23 03:28:58 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
if you find someone to talk to and be dirty with the feeling won't go away, it'll just get 'dirtier'
if you don't want to lose your guy continue to be open with him - don't do anything he doesn't know about
2007-05-23 03:25:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I guess you should find someone to do a 3 some he will love it and it sounds like you might too.
2007-05-23 03:23:11 · answer #8 · answered by Maria 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
UHM...Yeah...you do that...just get it over with already...let your husband watch cuz you know he'll like it and you already said you won't leave him so what the hell is your problem...
2007-05-23 03:44:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get him to dress up like a woman and tuck his package! He might need to do a little shaving to be feminine enough for you!
You are asking where to find someone to cheat on your husband with!!!!!!!!
2007-05-23 03:20:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋