Why do men take care of the kids after the split but stop when they get into another serious relationship? Why do they take care of babies they have with the new girl and not spend as much time or not take care of their other children?
2007-05-23 02:53:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
because the new relationship takes alot more of their time and it is all new and it is like excitement to them . It is wrong because they should concentrate on the kids they already have instead of taking on new ones . They have to spend more time on the new realtionship to build it and then they will do the same thing to the new one too . it is a never ending cycle . good luck .
2007-05-23 02:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are speaking in terms of "men" when you are in fact dealing with an immature BOY who should never have created a life in the first place!
Real men DO NOT abandon their children - they fight for every little moment of time they can and to have each dollar they provide goto the CHILD and not the Mother who keeps spending her child support on her getting HER nails done!
Once a man has moved on into another relationship, he has obligations to it! He must be able to equally divide his future with his past - it is NOT easy - but it CAN BE DONE!
Never let a man "off the hook" and NEVER force a man to pay for what you should be doing yourself!
2007-05-23 03:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by martiek7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. Still trying to figure that one out. My dad did this to us growing up. We were first, then we became second. Only saw him about 1-2 times every other year or so. Now he's an old man and has no choice but to leave us alone (now that we're adults). It's sad that we can't have a closer relationship, but he planted that seed himself. I love him, but won't feel obligated to include him in certain aspects of my life.
2007-05-23 02:59:56 · answer #3 · answered by Inquiring mind wants to know.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew. My ex hasn't seen or spoken to our 2 children in almost 3 years, yet he's living with and helping raise his girlfriends children. Some men don't know or deserve the title of Dad and I'm convinced that children whose fathers take little or no interest in their lives are better off without them. I'm married to a wonderful man now that loves and adores my children and he's their "dad".
2007-05-23 03:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by flow_mj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not true. It depends on the man you chose.
My husband takes very good care of his kids. He has joint custody. We have them every other weekend and one day a week after school. Not to mention holidays! They have their very own room that we all decorated together. They will always be taken care of.
2007-05-23 03:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good question. i can tell you from own experience that i love my daughter. i am still with her mother, but the love is gone. if i had a chance to meet someone new, i would. as far as the kids go. i don't know how anybody could abandon their kids.
2007-05-23 02:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by richie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they leave because they thinkt hat the grass is greener on the other side but in most cases it isnt. i dont know why they spend more time with current partner and child than the first born except that they are on the path to being dead beat fathers
2007-05-23 08:17:43 · answer #7 · answered by dede 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could tell you Maria, but there's a lot out there to that they do love their own kids from first marriage. Yes its very sad when this happen, those few that does this don't have heart that can justify their doing.....
2007-05-23 03:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all men do that only certain individuals. there is no right or wrong answer or one that will help u understand because what they do is shitty, hurtful and wrong. u can ask that specific individual why but i doubt u will like the answer, if he answers at that. u have to live ur life regardless of what stupid decision someone makes that affects ur family.
2007-05-23 02:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by Karyn1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...I think its about what is in front of them...Mind you, not all men are like this. Ans sadly, sometimes, the ex makes it nearly unbearable to want to be with the kids. She/he makes it so in order to spend time with them, they have to deal with the anger, resentment and bitterness that the ex still has and they pick ficks or are rude and it is too hard to deal with each and every time they want to see their kids...
2007-05-23 02:59:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋