Hi, unfortunately my wife and i are splitting up, due to her unfaithfullness. We have 4 kids and a mortgage, and we have discussed the way forward. We have agreed on every issue, and seem to have everything covered, so do we still need to involve solicitors?
2007-05-23 02:30:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No
If it is an amicable split and neither of you are keen on finalising a divorce then dont get them involved - it just gets messy then - my lawyer says etc.
It is not an easy time for either party especially the kids and if you guys can keep as much control over how things go then I would go with that before involving outside parties - unfaithfullness aside.
I am a divorced mum with one kid, my partner was the unfaithful one but at the end of the day we didnt stop being parents to our child and now almost 13 years later our son is a well rounded, confident and independent individual and I believe that it was down to maintaining our images as parents (not always easy when the last person you want to see in your house as part of the birthday celebrations is the one who broke your heart) but it will be all worth it in the long run, your kids will thank you for it one day.
I am not saying it is easy but it is possible. good luck and just because your partner was unfaithful does not mean that your life is over - giving you a big hug right now!
2007-05-23 02:45:59 · answer #1 · answered by LISA M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in the UK you can go to your Local Divorce courts and get a DIY Divorce pack. You can then lay down what you have agreed both financially and with regard to custody/visitation. This will then go before the judge and he will divorce you. This will cost around £300-400 a lot cheaper and easier than dealing with sols and you have everything in writing etc. Best way to do it is for the two of you too sit down together and work your way through it so there is absolutely no misunderstanding if who gets what. Good luck x
2007-05-23 11:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by Dimples 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u should still get solicitors involved for the sake of making everything legite and official so that ur wife doesnt suddenly change her mind and want something more but other then that well done for being civil to eachother it shows that there is such thing as grown ups in this world
good luck
2007-05-23 03:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by BabyPinkRocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY!!
There are certain papers that need to be filed, in certain order, etc. etc.
Also, there may be issues that you and wife may have forgotten or have decided differently than what the law requires - especially concerning child support and visitation.
You're better off with lawyers - his and hers.
My lawyer gave me some good advice:
In a divorce, either party has the right to act as a jerk. If one party chooses to act as a jerk - the other party is Forced to act as a jerk.
As with all complicated matters - the devil is in the details.
2007-05-23 02:47:08 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dude, do me a favor. Would you and your wife go see a marriage councilor. I know they will help you in as little as 4 sessions. I know what your going through is rough but there are people who can help. Your kids deserve a second chance, they haven't done anything wrong and they will be the ones who suffer the most. Trust me, you can beat this. Your lives will be turned upside down. Everything seems fine know with your agreeing, but they will turn ugly over time. Give it a shot for a friend you don't know. Thanks man
2007-05-23 02:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by Tutto Bene 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it is an amicable split and there is no dispute over custody, finances, or assets, then you just need to file it in the court. My bff did this with her x and they never needed an attorney or anything. Good Luck and best wishes!!
2007-05-23 02:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should have everything in writing and both parties should sign so that there is documentation of what agreements you have come up with. That way you have everything covered in case she decides not to hold up to her end. Good luck and God bless.
2007-05-23 02:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by sapphireblaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly sorry to here about you and your wife splitting up and yes you do need a brief to get it all legal best the luck 4 the future .
2007-05-23 04:48:26 · answer #8 · answered by dream theatre 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, you can go to a divorce place and have an uncontested divorce. Just make sure when you go, you already have the list of what goes where and have it notarized and signed by both parties to protect yourself.
2007-05-23 02:35:17 · answer #9 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes - get it all tied up legally thru the courts and if you are both in agreement as to how things should be legal costs would be kept to a minimum and your kids futures will be protected.
2007-05-27 01:31:11 · answer #10 · answered by i give up 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋