I'm in a wonderful relationship with the man of my dreams, but my company transferred me to another country! We only get to see each other every 8 weeks, and it's starting to place a lot of strain on our relationship. There is a oppertunity for him to move to where I am, but that would mean a cut in his benefits, and I cannot force him to do this, and it would also mean that he would work in the same office, and report to me...
He's very keen on this move, but I feel that if it does not work out, he'll blame me for this...
What to do?
2007-05-23 02:15:46 · 5 answers · asked by Billy G 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
it'll be difficult to maintain a long distance relationship, that feeling of security one gets from physical touch and contact is much more faint when you can only speak over a phone or through a computer.
that said, having him work in the same building as you, and report to you could be trouble.
if he's keen, then it's worth giving it a try, who can tell? nothing ventured, nothing gained, but you shouldn't be afraid of him blaming you for it, what's more important, the fear of a potential blame, or having this man, whom you love, with you?
you need to talk it over with your partner, more than anyone, and consider the possibilities, tell him that you're afraid of it not working out if you were working together, and how much he means to you, if he loves you as much as you love him, he'll understand, and who knows, he may have ideas for getting around those problems?
take care, good luck.
2007-05-23 02:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by §ilver 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At first I was going to say - that is true love but once you said he would work in the same office and report to you - the warning flag went up.
Nothing ruins a close relationship than working in the same office. That he would report to you would further put a strain on it. If something came up that you had to admonish/criticise his work, would you be able to do it and then put that aside when you went home? Would he be able to accept such criticism and put it aside at home? That is very difficult to do.
Suppose he did make the move, what would you do if word got out about your relationship. You could be accused of favoring him in manager/employee issues. The both of you could wind up w/o a job.
You both have a lot to consider. I hope you make the right choices.
2007-05-23 02:26:50 · answer #2 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i ask your self myself how long, long distance courting's final, and what the reason's are that it has to stay so distant happening 2 year's now..in case you may desire to artwork on a thank you to make the two considered one of you no longer so distant from one yet another it would help..and if it extremely is troublesome for you presently, how can it get from now on valuable? evaluate this a huge ingredient to evaluate, in case you may desire to stay like this for something of your life, or how long down the line...and in the journey that your thinking 2d thought's approximately loving him, it's time to be certain some thing, or end the courting before your heart get's broken, time and time lower back, love that's now.
2016-11-05 02:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Tell him your concerns. Perhaps he feels that you are worth the risk.
2007-05-23 03:23:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him and he loves you, you'll make it work
2007-05-23 03:16:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋