what to do if you like someone you met on the internet but they live in a far distant country?

Question

sigh
i really like this other guy (yes im gay) but he's sooo far away from where i live
do you try and organize a flight?
or do you keep up with your useless contact with the person on the interent
and never getting the chance to see them?

its impossilbe for these type of relationships to work out
ok maybe not impossible. but for many of us yes.

i just wanna meet the person i love.
he's just too far away to meet
like half way around the world
what would you do?!

you're right about expectations. i can't just say i love him if i haven't met him in the first place!
sorry about that.
dont know where my head is at most of the time!

Answer 1

If you are financially able to meet him, and he is willing to get together face to face, then you should go for it. If the chemistry isn't there when you finally meet, at least you have visited a country you've never been to and had a nice cultural experience.

Answer 2

I think if I had really strong feelings for him I would continue the long-distance relationship. I've had a few of them, but only 2 with people from other countries (1 in the USA and 1 in Belgium). Anyways, with Mr. Belgium, we tried our best to make it last but it just didn't work out in the end, we were so far apart that we started drifting away from each other. BUT! With Mr. USA, who was closer (but still very very far away from me), we lasted a while longer, and we clicked really well. We eventually ended it because we were just too busy and not committed enough for the relationship, but it was awesome while it lasted.

I think it's possible for these relationships to work out (it worked out for me with another guy, my country but still pretty far -- together for about a year now!), if both partners are committed to making it work. You should, in my opinion, continue to chat online, use webcams, talk on the phone... Oh, and here's an idea: both of you go see a movie on the same day, and then you can talk about it later... almost like you saw it together (minus the cuddling and stuff)! Things like that might bring you closer together. Also, if you've been together a while (and you have the money) I would definately try to meet up. But don't rush it too much, because you might regret spending money on something that wasn't worth it.

Good luck♥!

Answer 3

While I wish you the best I want to warn you to be very wary (sorry - I have a suspicious nature on some things).

There are many documented cases where some long-distance internet relationships have turned out to be a scam.

I am not making any accusations on the guy you are "connecting" with but there are many who see this as a way to get out of their country and into yours (and ask you to pay for the airfare and other costs). Once there, they may disappear before you ever see them or stay with you for a short time and then break up the relationship (and then disappear).

If you want to arrange a flight - offer to go to see him, not offer to pay for him to come to you. If he hesitates or comes up with an excuse why you shouldn't then you have to suspect something.

For all you know, he may really be a she, or not as old as he says he is (there are plenty of pictures of other people available on the internet that get sent around). That is a real problem with any relationship originated on the internet.

Hope things work out for you.

Answer 4

i think u live once. and you never know!

Add some sparkle to your life - save up - and go and visit!!

I met my man on the 'net and we're coming up to a year, it's great! And now we dont even think about how we met. True we did both live in the same city.

IF you book the flight in advance you can usually get them really cheap. Not even that much more than a train ride sometimes. And a flight does only take a few hours of your time and then you're there with him!!!

It's up to you but love is waiting for each of us in the world and sometimes its right there and people dont grab it!!

Answer 5

it's improbable that it will grow into anything beyond words, but it's not impossible.

i initially met up with my boyfriend over the itnernet, it was about a month afterwards that we started phone calling, video-chatting, writing letters to each other ( real ones, so much more personal than emails). and this is me in england, and him in America, big distance gap x.x and it meant that to see each other ( and still, to continue seeing each other and talking) we have a 8 hour time gap to bridge, which means that i'm unable to see him until about 11pm at night..

that said, i've been with him for almost 3 years now, and since first meeting him in an online chatroom, i've visited him out there in america, and vice versa about 4 times, and we're looking at him migrating to the UK next year, all this, and i'm only 19 years old currently. :)

financial aspects will be a big problem, and you'll have to acknowledge that Long distance relationships remain one of the most difficult kinds to cope with, but it isn't impossible.

Hope that helps, and good luck.

Answer 6

Although I don't approve of same sex relationships.. I will say this.

Long distance relationships do work! If you are strong willed honest and have great patience. You have to really love the other person and have the drive to make it work no matter what, do whatever it takes.

I met my wife on-line and we both lived in the opposite end of the world.. Although it took us a lot of time to be together(4yrs) out of 7yrs of knowing each other, we are prob more happy than if we saw each and everyday.

Answer 7

You just want to meet the person you love? But you've never met them, your in love with the idea of them (possibly), but meeting them in person will be a totally different experience.

But having said all that, if you want to meet them, then whats stopping you? Thats what credit cards are for, or better still, invite them to your place.

Anything can happen in this world, its just a matter of how much you are willing to let go of your preconceptions of life, you could travel half way across the world and know instantly you've made the best or worse decision of your life, you at least you'll know.

so go for it, but not with any agenda about the future, just enjoy meeting someone for who they are. And remember, its easy to be selective about what you tell people about yourself when sitting in front of a monitor, so you could very well be in for a surprise.

Answer 8

I'm not into online dating but i dont think its gonna work unless you wanna spend money to travel to see him,sorry. hope you figure something out

Answer 9

unless you have lots of money keep playing on the internet. If you have money and you both are agreeable arrange a visit

Answer 10

in my opinion, internet relationships never work, one of you has to travel to the other's country if you want it to work...