ok, i know this is a tough question, but is it ok to be attracted to boys? I mean i dont think that every guy that is attracted to girls is a rapist, so why is it that anyone that is attracted to minors is considered a potential molester?
2007-05-23 00:05:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Is there a difference between boylove and child molestation? I guess that depends on what we mean by boylove. You say "attracted to boys." If that's the case, then the answer is a resounding yes.
An attraction to boys (and/or girls) is a reality for a lot of people. It is somewhat unfortunate, but it isn't morally bad. It's just an attraction. Thoughts, feelings.
Child molestation isn't thought and feelings—it's actions. And actions can be wrong. When an adult has sexual contact with a child, that is wrong.
So yes, there is definitely a difference. The difference is between thoughts and actions.
I can't see anything wrong with your analogy between adult-rapists and child molesters. Just as most men have an attraction to women, that doesn't mean they are automatically people who would rape them. Similarly, just because some adults are attracted to children, that doesn't mean they are going to rape them. (Any sexual contact between an adult and a child, of course, would be rape: a child cannot consent to sexual acts with an adult.)
I think that because this is such a strong (and possibly necessary) taboo, most people don't know that there are people out there who never abuse children, despite being attracted to them. The only people whose attraction is actually discovered is those who do abuse children, which leads to the same kind of dark understanding as if you wanted to understand straight sexuality from talking to men who rape women.
2007-05-23 21:47:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're an adult and you're attracted to pre-pubescent children, male or female, you have pedophile tendencies. Our culture in general has an extreme fear of child molesters - pedophiles who act on their desires. And you could probably benefit from some counselling to make sure these desires don't get out of control - because these desires /do/ have a tendency to take on a life of their own and become more and more difficult to control, as there is really very little in regards to a safe way to release pent up desire.
I'm probably going to get slammed for saying this, but I believe that this is probably more common than we know. Not every person attracted to children acts on their intentions. But these desires can be /very/ powerful. To have them is harmless in itself. To act on them, one could potentially destroy a child's mind and ego. It's such a disturbing crime that most people automatically put the perpetrators into a box and say "those monsters" instead of realizing that they are people with desires, who made the wrong choices. (Very wrong choices.)
2007-05-23 00:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by Katia 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Men who 'see' a young girl and fleetingly think 'she's pretty' and move on are simply admiring. Men who are 'attracted' to and are 'looking' at young girls are very much in my mind potential molesters. And vice versa. You claim to be 'attracted' and look but don't touch. So if you aren't a molester then the obvious thing to do is move on! Get a grown man and move on! Otherwise you will put yourself into a tempting situation and you will act on it, and/or get reinforcement from actual molesters. Children in this situation don't 'love' adults, the adults only call it that so it justifies their actions.
2007-05-23 00:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Yes, most guys are rapists and boylove is child molestation. It's spiritual abuse to even be considering it and treating a child as if that's what they are to the world.
In the case of any of these being present, then consent to sexual activity is technically not valid. Not that a court would uphold it, but anytime there's false imprisonment (how many times do guys use blocking off exit-ways to make their point?), lying about who you are, giving false medical or hygiene information, drugs or intoxication or mental illness, consent is not valid. It's just not supposed to happen.
2007-05-23 00:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by MiD 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Perverts are attracted to children in a sexual way. Boylove or whatever you call it doesn't change the fact that it is molestation.
2007-05-23 00:10:02 · answer #5 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
It doesn't matter whether they molest anyone or not, they are all little perverts and that's totally nasty. I don't necessarily think they are all going to molest children, but how can you think of an innocent child in that way? They don't even understand yet. And most of them do molest them too.
2007-05-23 00:28:20 · answer #6 · answered by Aloofly Goofy 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
These are normal:
1- Paranoid afraids being killed.
2- Thinking self murder in depession.
3- Manic-depressives loosing their job quickly.
4- Some Obbsessive-compulsives wash hands with acid.
5- Sadists tortures innocent people.
6- Child mollesters attracted by young boys.
... and many more
They are all known disorders of human brain, mental illnesses. All must be strictly treated
before they harm anybody, any child or themselves. If they can't be treated they must be isolated.
2007-05-23 00:31:48 · answer #7 · answered by rexxyellocat 5 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Depends on this "attraction"... If it is like it reads here, it's really molestation potential... Pick on someone your own age!
2007-05-23 00:13:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
there is no difference- if it's a child then it's wrong
2007-05-23 02:34:59 · answer #9 · answered by Kristal E 6 · 1⤊ 5⤋