We seperated because he had an affair,we have been txtn each other a lot bout our feeling and stuff he even called me baby and all that stuff.
Last week, i got his sister to babysit so i could go out with a guy i liked and since then he has been blunt with me and only txtd bout the kids.I haven't txt him either cause i don't wanna come across as waiting around for him.
Thing is, it was him that fell for someone else and promised he wouldn't go silly if i dated, so whats up with him?
2007-05-22 23:45:07 · 29 answers · asked by live life 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The question ought to be what is wrong with me why do I bother with this person. You're creating problems for yourself I think.... don't you?
Leave him be. He was unfaithfull to you not the other way around and it's not some sort of game your playing is it. Stop trying to wind him up it is dangerous game to play.
2007-05-22 23:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by Boudicca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's jealous, and I think you are being a bit silly not realising this. I dont think you are taking his feelings into account at all (I know he might not have when he had an affair but wo wrongs dont make a right) Using his sister to babysit was a bad idea. While you are texting and probably flirting with him, you shouldnt be dating anyone else. Unless you have both decided that you wont be getting back together. If thats the case then you should only be texting him about the kids.
As you can see, if you are texting about other things then the relationship can go sour when you start dating other people.
Either be with him or dont. If not keep your relationship strictly business.
2007-05-22 23:53:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know this already, relationships are really complex things. I get the feeling that by texting you and 'just being friendly', your ex was exercising some level of control over you. Also, the fact that you had his sister looking after the kids, while you (dared) to go out and have a good time, might be considered by him as going a step too far.
Next time you see him, speak to him privately and lay out your plans. The relationship you shared was great while it lasted and you produced some great kids, but that's over now and you intend to get on with your life. If that means meeting other men, so be it. (He will be feeling insecure about this). Confirm for him that he will always be a part of your childrens lives, but you need to make a life for yourself
Hope this is of some use
2007-05-22 23:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by cornflake#1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just you go on and do what you want to do.Dont make the mistake of waiting around to see if things "might" get better between you.He really wants the best of both worlds and you are hanging onto to something that might never be the same again.If you feel comfortable dating somebody else and feel that is what you want to do then go for it!Life is too short and you need some happiness too.
Stop worrying about what he thinks and do what you want to do!I know its difficult when you have children with somebody,but if he is only texting you about the kids let him carry on being like he is.
Even if it dosent work out with this new person you have taken a huge step to move on and deal with your life seperately to his.Aslong as your children are not witness to your new partner and they are not aware of any ill feeling between you and your ex,then just carry on doing what you want to do and make sure you let your hair down remember he was the one who had the affair not you!!!
2007-05-22 23:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by smiler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult these days with mobiles and stuff, there is no alternative but to stay in touch - ESPECIALLY if you have kids. It was probably better in the old days when it was a clean break. I broke up with my hubby a couple of years ago because it just wasn't working. I met someone else but we still texted and met up sometimes to discuss stuff. In the end, I stopped it because it wasn't fair on him, he couldn 't move on. At the time, i would have felt very jealous of anyone he was with, but have always just wanted him to be happy so wouldn't have begrudged him meeting someone.
Are you sure you haven't split up too hastily? Was his affair a mistake, does he still love you and want to be with you, or is he - like i was - just a bit jealous.
I hope it all works out, it's so hard. Good luck with it all.
2007-05-22 23:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a man!!!
They think they can have their cake and eat it. It's okay for him to go off with someone else but if he gets a sniff of another man moving in on what he regards his he gets all Narky.
Many cheating men are taken back by their wives but if the wife was to have a tryst while they were apart he has trouble accepting that.
He feels threatened he can no longer be certain you will always be there when HE wants you.
Or maybe he just thinks you have moved on and are not interested in rekindling your relationship, ask him and see what he has to say for himself
2007-05-23 00:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by THE MINT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He broke his promise, but is it really that surprising? He's gone silly because theres still a possibility of "getting in there" with no next man on the scene, now you've closed that door partially (and rightly so I might add) he can't handle that. Whether he wants you back um.... I don't know but one thing is certain, he doesn't want one of his greatest achievments, to find possibly that same happiness (but probably better) with someone else.
2007-05-22 23:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by reheeheeeeeealyyyy! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you are currently separated does not mean that he no longer loves you. If he knows you are with another man he will become jealous because he feels that the love between you has completely faded away. That is why he is having a bit of a stroppy moment.
2007-05-22 23:50:33 · answer #8 · answered by True_Brit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could it be that he has given up hope of you 2 now getting back together (by texting each other still NOT about the kids) there was still hope for him, now you are moving on maybe he is seeing there is no future for you two.
and to be honest what else can he really ask about apart from the kids ?
dont know why but your message sounds like you wanted the attention from him, maybe its time to sit down somewhere and have a think of what you really want
2007-05-22 23:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by bigsexydug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he felt like you were working things out and is confused because you went on a date. He perhaps thought there was a chance for you to get back together and now he realises thats not going to happen.
2007-05-23 01:01:57 · answer #10 · answered by British*Bird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋