Met a guy around 10 months ago through another guy friend we were like best friends and were also very attracted to each other. During the early stages he told me that he wasn’t looking for a serious relationship with any1 at the moment. So we were not intimate, but stayed close and got even closer than before. That was when he started saying that I am someone that he would like to be with as he has a soft spot for me, I am very intelligent, ambitious and very articulate. I even went to the US he would call me from the UK and talk to me for ages were so close. Then we started seeing each other officially and things didn’t 100% work out as he wasn’t in the frame of mind for a relationship and he was a very self centered and indecisive. So for e.g. he would not call me for days and think that it was alright. But then if I tried to move on, he would come back. We finally broke things off as I gave him 1 last chance to tell me what exactly he wanted and he said that we should be friends
2007-05-22 22:35:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
for now as he cant be in a relationship with anyone right now. He has too many things going on right now.
So I moved on never called, he always called me. Then we had the 1st ever massive argument and he was very rude. He said that he never mislead me, when he did. I had reminded him of 1 of the times when he told me to wait and see what happens and he said to me “well if I told you to jump off of a cliff would you do it”!! really rude hurtful things. I was really angry and started crying, he was hugging wiping my tears saying that he went humble straight away.
I said to him that I didn’t know if we could work this out as it has gone too far and he said that he wants to work things out. He also said “I am not saying we are gonna get back together straight away or be intimate but we can work things out and take it from there.
2007-05-22 22:36:04 · update #1
He called me the next day too see if I was alright as was really upset the day before and if we were on good terms again? He also called me yesterday. Do I cut him off and out of my life and ignore him as he has hurt me a lot and I don’t really feel the same for him as I did before? or stay friends with him, after I said we could be on good terms?
2007-05-22 22:37:51 · update #2
nice story
2007-05-22 22:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by skcs11 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing for you to do at the moment is to move on. There are plenty of other great guys out there. If he doesnt know what he wants with you now, then a guess he never will. Be friends by all means, however it probably wont be the same as it was before.
You will find that special someone that will worship the ground that you walk on, one day. But when that day does come you'll know that he is the right one for you.
Some guys will never know what they want, and to me it seems this guy will be one of those guys. Good Luck!
2007-05-23 05:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of waiting for this guy to finally know what he wants, take control and do what's right for you.
Personally, I hate wishy-washy guys like that and I'd rather not be friends with people like that.
It maybe that he never mislead you intentionally but he sure changed his mind on you which to you probably feels the same: painful.
Understandably so. I'd say cut him lose, better to be friends with somebody where the definition and boundaries are clear and not so much emotional work.
2007-05-23 05:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by Milly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...it's only up to you, we can give you advice, to move on, but in the end you have to make the choice and live with it...so, you said you didn't feel the way you once did about him? what do you feel now? do you feel like you can still be just friends, do you feel like he is worth having in your life, do you care enough to let him be apart of your world? before making any decisions you have to answers these questions as honestly as you can, and only then try to make one...if you are sure that in spite of what he did to you, deep down is a good guy...you should forgive him, but never forget...everyone has a limit, did he cross the limit yet? do you think enough is enough? if the answer is " yes" then it's definitely time to move on...
2007-05-23 06:12:39 · answer #4 · answered by Roxana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make sure you go into this fully prepared for a disapointment cause it sounds like this guy doesn't know if he is coming or going so just be careful girl only you know in your heart what is right or not so i say that to say this men are pigs 90% of time so just use your head and remember guys hate it when we play hard to get so don't keep yourself readily avaiable make him work for your time
2007-05-23 05:45:37 · answer #5 · answered by jsmispris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ts sounds to me like he is holding something back. What ever it is, you are in tune with it. As long as that is there, your relationship will never grow from where its at now.
If he wants to be friends than ask him to give you some time to yourself. Cut him off for however long it takes you to get your head on straight (week, month, year, whatever). When your ready to be JUST his friend, call him.
2007-05-23 05:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by Opr13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to cut him out of your life. He sounds like a very selfsih man, who can't make decisions. Are you just supposed to sit around waiting for the time when he, maybe, realizes what a jerk he has been, and treats you the way you deserve?!
Good luck with whatever you choose to do :-)
2007-05-23 05:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He said what he wanted to say and that is over. Now, it's your turn. Are you going to wait for him? Are you willing to?
If I were you I would've gradually keep a distance between the 2 of us and never get back with him. he's not wothry of your feelings nor your friendship.
2007-05-23 06:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by she 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's just using you as a back up, you should just leave him.. Because he's trying to look for someone better to be with and since he hasn't find anyone he's sticking with you.. Don't come second to anyone, look for a real good men.. so take care and move on..
2007-05-23 05:40:49 · answer #9 · answered by Rain L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut him off. He is playing games with you. Why do you need all of that drama? He has already decided that he does not want to make any commitments. Why should you hang around and be his toy? He is a self-centered jerk!
2007-05-23 05:46:23 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the following;
Insecure
indecisive
jealous
desperate for attention
lonely
sad
unsure of what he wants
You need to be ;
wary of him
careful
sensitive
sure of what you want
decisive
smart
cunning
take time and bid time
be straight and tell him he has one chance.
( it depends on what you want now. Its your chance to be nice or walk away and throw him away. But its his loss but at the same time he must not be runnin to you just for attention and company out of loneliness- tread safely and take time to see what he wants out of you)
2007-05-23 05:40:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋