Ok, before you judge me *HEAR ME OUT*:
I am 20 years old and I've been married since I was 17!! (I know too young) FORTUNATELY, my husband & I have a great relationship and we have a 2 year old daughter. However, I've decided that I don't want any more kids. When my daughter was born, her kidneys failed and I almost LOST her! That was sooo hard on me emotionally, that I don't want to risk going through it again. Also, I used to weigh 110lbs. Now I weigh 204lbs!! Oh My GOD!! I've been really depressed since I had my daughter & at first dr's said it was post-partum depression... but here we are 2 years later and I'm more depressed than ever. Being overweight has been the hardest thing for me. I know it sounds selfish and yeah, maybe i'm being a bit paranoid about another child's kidneys failing, But I'm confused. I don't know if I EVEN HAVE the DESIRE to have more children, or I'm just trying to find an excuse to convince myself i don't want more kids. HELP W/ ADVICE PLEASE!
2007-05-22 22:11:51 · 6 answers · asked by MaMa-C-Ta 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
My husband wants 1 more kid, but isn't it ultimately up to me since I'm the one suffering for 9 months, plus all the "mommy Duties"?
2007-05-22 22:26:24 · update #1
Well.. I completely understand what you are saying. And I would say that if you really want your tubes tied then so be it.. No one is going to be able to make up your mind for you. You are the only one that can do that. Having a childs kidneys fail and almost losing them does have a huge impact on you. Do you have any history of that in your family? I would suggest that you research your options though. You dont want to do anything that you are going to regret. I dont think that you can get your tubes tied though. Here are a few sites you might want to take a look at.. Really think this over, because it is a life changing thing you and your partner are going to go through. You really have to consider your partners feelings as well. Even though you are the one that is growing the baby inside you for 9 months, he does have a right in making this decision with you. Think about if you wanted another kid and he wanted a vascetomy. Wouldnt you want him to talk it over with you first before rushing off and making the decision himself. You guys are a family now. Now you must make decisions together. Also, I encourage you to speak to a therapist. Your depression may be something more serious, and should be checked up on. Take birth control, and use condoms. Be extra careful.
2007-05-22 22:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by Kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not a good idea to make any major decision while youre depressed.Being overweight as you knowjust makes the depression worse, Talk to you r doctors again about the depression and maybe consider some medication or a change in meds if youre alfeady on them.Meanwhile...have a talk to the doc about other contraception options. Ihave this implant called mirena that is good for five years.good luck to you
2007-05-22 22:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by jazzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing full well that you may do the opposite of what I will tell you, I can only say to you to do what feels beneficial for you and anyone else involved. There are no right and wrong decisions. There are only degrees of benefit or harm. Just remember that time is infinite. Human life isn't. Take your time, but don't waste it.
Good luck to you regardless.
2007-05-22 22:18:44 · answer #3 · answered by Martial E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why get your tubes tied? see if he is willing to get his tied so if you change your mind you can still have kids.And you should seek profesional help to get your depression under control.Its probably why you gained weight.Raising a kid is hard at any age.Get outside with your family and enjoy each other,play games and have fun.Get out yourself, go to the mall or just out to eat and have fun or just relax.See another doctor----its doesnt sound like you have a good one.There are drugs to help with depression.
2007-05-22 22:37:04 · answer #4 · answered by bearman48064 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you consider getting your tubes tied, a very final step, I urge you to consider therapy. Find out why your depression is persisting and get some help to work out your issues.
2007-05-22 22:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its a tough one personally id say no as you never know what the future holds might be easier to go on the ill or wear protection but its you're body so in the end its up to you and you're hubby to decide
2007-05-22 22:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by kev l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋