Hey Guys,, My life has been getting worse and boring since 2 weeks. I was sad enough and yesterday I broke up with my girl friend. Well, I still love her so much :-( We live in the same flat and same room.
She wants to stay friend forever and ever. That's what I want as well but I just can't take my mind off of her...
There's just too much pressure to take =( I'm trying to think of my dreams but even my dreams are not attractive anymore. I don't wanna do anything. I know that you guys are gonna say there are so many girls out there but believe me, I don't give a **** =( !!
Is there someone who felt like this before and how do you think that I can feel little bit better? I'll be so glad and thankful If you can help...
2007-05-22 20:06:20 · 4 answers · asked by white crow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi, I understand. Breaking up with someone you love is a hard thing to do. If seems like you will never find another person like them and like everyone else on the planet is dating except you, but that's not true.
I experienced a breakup with someone I loved a few years ago. I did not know how I was going to make it; at the time, I cared for them sooo much. I missed them so much I used to just look at our pictures together. And then I sat by the phone and waited for them to call for like, weeks. He never did. But you know what? Time heals all wounds. I was sad for a long time, but day by day I got stronger and eventually, I stopped thinking about him. I used it as a lesson learned because there were things I did during the relationship that were really bad and there were things that he did also that made me wonder if this is really the person I would want to spend the rest of my life with. Recently I began to wonder what life would be like if I were still with that person. It was not meant to be and I'm better now because I have had time to concentrate on ME. I'm still single, and loving it. I want to fall in love and get married someday, yes, but to my HUSBAND. The right person that loves me for me. Sometimes love is blind and you can't imagine the future because well, you just broke up and you mind is still heavily occupied with her.
Now, I think it would also depend on the reason why you broke up, of course. How long did you date? Is the feeling mutual? Is the relationship reparable? There is nothing wrong with telling her how you feel, even at this point. But if its not meant to be, work on moving on. And, its not doing you any help to still live in the same flat/room? One of you is going to have to move out. There's not way you can still see each other if you're broken up and hurt.
Also, If I had a dollar for everyone that said we'd be friends forever and ever, I'd have a lot of money. I'm not sure of your age, but you sound young. I know for myself, through high school and college, and just in general, there have been people that I was inseparable with. I mean, I couldn't imagine them not being in my life. Ask me if I even know where they are now. I still care about each of those people, but life goes on. They were in my life for a reason and a season, that that season passed, and many of us went our separate ways.
I don't know you, but just take a deep breath and come up for air. You have to worry about you. I am a Christian, and I prayed about it for a long time. But, God gave me the strength to move on, and He will help you through this too. Take this as a learned lesson, and try not live with your next girlfriend. It's not worth it, I promise.
Just know that you will get through this. I don't think there's an adult out there that has never had their heart seriously broken. But you know what, we got through it. Learn from your mistakes and work on rebuilding. You owe it to yourself and the future women (especially that one special woman) you meet that will think you're a great guy.
2007-05-22 20:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by florita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first, u need to move from your flat, at least move to other room. u can't live with your ex!! how can u start a new relationship??
then, go out and hang out with your friends or do something to keep u busy, so u don't have time to think about her.
time will heal you, you just have to know how to past the time
2007-05-23 05:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by ordinary1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone that has ever allowed themselves to love has risked the chance of being heartbroken. There is no way to heal it. It just takes time to heal itself. Try doing things to get your mind off of it. Get together with your friends, etc... It is rough, but I promise that time heals all wounds. Take care.
2007-05-23 03:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you need a hug
2007-05-23 03:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by Still*Perfect 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋