i think every mother should give the father the right to name their baby or have an opinion on what it should?

Answer 1

A lot of women DO allow their husband to have a say. I am a member of a baby name message board, and there are a lot of women on there who had to sacrifice their favorite names because their husband did not agree with them. Many of them choose names that they both agree upon. But, if the man is not going to be apart of the child's life (or does not see them regularly) then the woman should choose what she wants.

I agree with you though, I hope that all men are apart of the naming process. But some men don't care at all. Some do. It depends on the person.

I wouldn't personally use a name that my BF didn't like. I already know that he does not like one of my favorite boy names (Jonas), so I would not use it if we had children together. Luckily he likes my top names.

Answer 2

In a healthy, committed relationship, the baby's name would of course be one that would be reached by consensus. The mother and father would hopefully approach the job of naming their child with humour and mutual respect and of course, some compromise. Likely both would have to give up on names they loved that the other would not. Giving the father (or mother) sole power over the naming of the child belongs to medieval times. I wonder if you suggested this idea as a way for the father to become involved? In this case, there are a million or more other ways for the father to assume responsibility for the child, and none which involved forfeiting the mother's much deserved right to have a say in her baby's name! If this is just a nod to patriarchal times, I am not sure there is anything I can say to you, but I think it's just wrong.

Answer 3

I believe they should agree for the most part. I know a lot of pushy people wont though. I have 4 kids. My husband didnt help much with the first girl. Next were twin girls, we each named one in the end. The last was a boy, and I told him he could name him anything he wanted. I held true since I really dont like the name much at all. Its also my sisters son's name, and his best friends name.... Not the best situation, but it was fully up to him.

Its not only the mother's child. Men may have an actual better opinion on names them woman actually. They have a more direct line of thought, are probably considering more the the childs future. Its trying to be super individual and making up some impossible name to spell or pronounce.... People need to get past that. Just because you switch around all the letter and YOU still pronounce it that same, dont make it right, nor easy for others to figure out. If you want to name your kids something, do it. Dont spell it all messed up and think its a different name. Its not.

Answer 4

I agree! My husband told me to make a list of the names that I really liked and then he would mark off the ones he hated..lol. After a few lists, we had it narrowed down to just the ones that we both liked and moved on to putting a first and middle name together that sounded good with our last name. It was fun doing that together and I didn't feel like I was hogging the honor of naming our child.
We didn't even come up with the middle name for our son--we didn't have one since I was 7 weeks early ,so the nurse was throwing out suggestions and we ended up using her brother's name.
With our daughter, We did the same for her first name with the list thing, but I made my husband list the names HE liked for her middle name and I had to mark off the ones I didn't like. We ended up with a list of about 5 names and I told my hubby to pick the one he liked the best. I felt it was the fair way to do it and love the name he chose.
If the father is not an active part of the mother's life at the time of the birth , and wasn't around during the pregnancy, then I would have to say that the mother has the right to name the child whatever she wants.

Answer 5

I think that when the father carries the baby for nine months then he sould have the right to name the baby whatever he wants but he doesn't the mother does. Granted, if the father is even present during the bearing of the child then he has to deal with the very wretched pregnant woman that is carryibg his child but still, he has no idea what she is going through. My father named me and I really wish he hadn't because it just gives the male a sense of control that men don't need because they already think that they are the king of the world. Women should have all the say in the child's life and the males should support the mom one-hundred percent.

Answer 6

A father should have an opinion, but in the long run, I always believed it was my final choice. I respected his opinion, but he would not have final decision when I carry the child for 9 months.

I absolutely hate people that name the baby after themselves. The second, third , fourth, etc. Wouldn't happen in my family.

I married a man who named his son Jr. I think it is a man too hung up on himself. I've let him know this several times. A child needs his own identity.

He does go by his fathers middle name which is Todd. His grandmother got mad, because he just graduated and instead of saying Richard Todd, they just called him Todd.

Well duh? All his life he has been known as Todd. He doesn't think of himself as Richard Jr. Also just got a tatoo of TH why should it be RH, that's not what he's used to. I think men that name their children after themselves are totally egotisitical when they have no reason to be.

If I really liked a name, it would take precendence over my husbands. I carried this child for 9 months and was put through all the pain. In my opinion, my thoughts count more than his.

Answer 7

You're question doesn't make a lot of sense, but I agree that the father should be able to throw his opinion in.

It shouldn't be up to just the mother unless the father leaves, but it should also not be up to just the father, either. It is the child of both parents, and they should decide on a name together.

Answer 8

I think fathers who are involved in their wife or girlfriends life have a right, otherwise I don't think they do. Producing a child is not the same as caring for them.

Having that said, all involved father's should have a right to be co-namer's of their children. As long as they want to be involved in naming their kids, some fathers don't really care though. My husband is a fantastic father and he never cared what our kids were named as long as it wasn't to strange. He is just very easy going about those kinds of things. Not all fathers have to be involved, no matter what anyone says. He let me pick the names because he loved me and wanted me to be happy with them. I love that he trusted me that much.

Answer 9

I wouldn't agree but that's mainly because I had both my children without the father's presence. However, I still feel that if the father were to be there, I wouldn't have let him name the child. I'm the one who carried my son, I'm the one who gained the weight, and I'm the one who went through the pain. That's just me though. My sister let's her husband name the babies and I don't agree, but you know what? I love my neices just the same! : )

Answer 10

I think it should be a joint thing. My husband and I had the hardest time agreeing on a name for my last two children that we didn't have a name until the last week or so of each pregnancy. He made it very difficult but they are his children and he helped make them and is helping raise them - he had just as much right to a name choice as I did. (almost, heehee)