my mom makes me fell like im a mistake and that she dosnt love me?

Answer 1

It might not be a bad idea to express those same sentiments to your mother. She may not realize she is coming off that way to you. Pick a good time to tell her....when moods are not elevated.

Some people do not know they come off badly.... but actually feel more than others know, but are unable to express them selves appropriately.

Chin up*

Answer 2

This is a crappy thing to say but make the best of it. My mom treated me the same way. I now have two boys. I have told myself from the day I found out that I was pregnant that I was not going to be like my mom. Neither one of my boys were planned but I would never call them and accident. They are a blessing, Every day I tell my kids that I love them, I give them hugs all day, spend all my free time with then I snuggle with them, tuck them into bed every night. All the things that my mother never did with me, I make sure that i do with my kids two-fold.I want to make sure that they know and that they never have any doubt that they are very important to me. You mom may be doing the wrong things. But remember how they make you feel and when it comes time for you to have your kids or if you already do....Then you know what not to do.

Answer 3

She may be depressed. There may be things in her life that she wishes she had done differently and one of them might have been having you when she was better prepared to have kids.
That whole timing thing has nothing to do with you. She probably thinks about that sometimes too and still gives you the wrong message when she's irriated and unhappy.
When she's relaxed and happy, the world looks different. This is something you know yourself. I hope things improve for your mom - for your sake as well as hers - and she is more relaxed and happy.

Answer 4

I'm sorry. For your mom to make you feel that way shows that she obviously has her own issues. Try to understand that it ISN'T YOU, it is her. She must have had some kind of major hurt in her past and unfortunately, it is being taken out on you. It doesn't justify in any way the way she treats you. But I just don't want for you to carry the hurt with you. I believe she does love you, she just doesn't know how to show it.

Answer 5

If your mother really doesn't love you, it's because she's incapable of it, not because of who you are. After all, your mother brought you up (this is, of course, an assumption on my part), so who you are is, to a great extent, a result of her input.

When you say a "mistake," do you you mean that she didn't intend to get pregnant when you were conceived? If so, you are certainly not to blame for that.

I'm sorry that your mother doesn't make you feel loved, safe, and cherished. Live sucks that way, sometimes.

The only thing I can suggest to you is that you not take it to heart. Don't let your relationship with your mother color your relationships with others. Fill your life with people who value you.

Answer 6

Medina, your mom loves you, sometimes parents just blow up and you must be close to her, or you wouldn't get the brunt of the blow up. Sometimes people see the same thing two different ways. I know that is how it is with me and my mom. She gets so aggravated at me, because apparently we speak two separate languages. What she says and what I hear are two totally different things, then she gets mad when I screw it up. When she's like that I just stay away, get done what I need to (am expected to) and stay out of her way. Then she can't argue, cause I've done what I need to do, I'm not arguing, etc. Sometimes it helps to write in a journal when your upset, I use to all the time, but I rip it up when I'm done, I had one whole journal my mom read, so now I rip up what I don't want anyone to see, and I feel better cause I got it off my chest.

Answer 7

same here. since me mum devorced my dad and got a new bf she has gone so self centred and blames me and my 3 sisters for making her stay with my dad for so long and and blames us for not being able to go out and get friends when realy my youngest sister is 16 and she can look after herself so unfortunatly i had to move back to me mums after a break up and the first day she was pushin me to find a place of my own. i have just found out i am pregnant and i cant tell her because she would just turn it on to herself and i lost everyone close to me when i left skool and my 2 older sisters dont live with me anymore so i have no one to talk to. but anyway less bout me i think your mum does love you just she has something goin on in her life at the minute just try and be on her side and become mates with her atleat you will be able to trust her and talk to her about anythin.

Answer 8

i am sure your mom would be sad to know you feel like that.she probaly is upset about a lot of things and wishes she had a better job maybe she feeld like shes not a good mom so she feels guilty and maybe says things she really doesnt mean because she is mad at other things.talk to your mom and ask her if thats how she feels.i doubt she does but if she is a pyscho type dont worry about it- GOD has a plan for you so you do good in school stay away from drugs,booze and sex.respect yourself and you will be fine.GOD DOES LOVE YOU. and he doesnt make mistakes.pray for your mom and for yourself.good luck.

Answer 9

Sorry ,just make sure you are around good people ,smart people and get a good education ,study hard so you can get a great job making lots of money .Mom will come running .
Unfortunately there are some like that .Again sorry ,but don't you grow up to be .

Answer 10

She's not a good mother if she purposely makes you feel like that.Maybe she had you at a young age and is using that as an excuse to be a failure at certain things. She's the one that has a problem, not you. Good luck.