6 years, no marriage, got the ring... but never really made it to the alter. He says that we are too young to be married (he 30 me 29). Also, he says that we argue too much. We are very passionate(equally with the love and fighting). We will break up and get back together because we know that we love each other and we do not function well w/o each other. My thing is.. while I'm still young pretty and sexy, I need to make myself accessible to someone who will not keep me around as their gf for 6 YEARS! I think if I don't mention marriage to him and we continued on the same path that we have been on for the last 6 years it will turn into another 6 years w/o marriage. Is this a waste of time. I love him and would want him for my husband but c'mon 6 years is too long and he has no intentions on marrying me anytime soon. Oh yeah... he wants to buy a house together and thinks it is more logical to do that than to marry? Is he serious?
2007-05-22 15:41:26 · 5 answers · asked by myevildog 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, he is serious. And he has made it VERY CLEAR to you what his intentions are. You're just not listening. He is saying, NO to you. No, I don't want to marry you. Anything is more logical than marrying you, even buying a house is better than marrying you. But, NO, I don't want to marry you. Now, you have a choice here, sister. You can either continue to get older and older with zero hope of getting married, or stop wasting your pretty self on this non-committed male who really doesn't love you and find someone who will beg for you to marry him.
2007-05-22 16:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I once knew a friend in your precise predicament, only thing was he was the bloke. I also knew he wouldn't make the plunge because he was the sort who freely admitted he will not go ahead. I think it's commitment. If the person will not, then he won't make to the altar. I think you've got every right to ask for that commitment since you have been with him all this time. And it's the convenience he is getting all the benefit plus even sharing a property. Buying a house is going to tie you down with him for as long as 25 years. So ask him what is the future with him? You have to think deeply about what you want from this relationship. Does this arrangement suit you? Are you happy to go along for another 6 years with no commitment? Do you want kids? If you answer no, then it's your call. My opinion is probably no, as you got the raw deal.
2007-05-22 15:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by Ken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After six years together, "too young to get married" doesn't ring true... especially considering your ages. I think it's time you let him know that marriage is what you want and if it isn't what he wants, you need to be moving on. And I certainly wouldn't buy a house with him. It's always a mistake to tie your financial future and stability to a man who isn't prepared to follow through on the promise he already made with that ring.
2007-05-22 15:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by galvanic_fantasy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By 6 years you should know. Hell, within the first year you should know.
Frankly, tell him to piss or get off the pot.
2007-05-22 16:00:22 · answer #4 · answered by TheOnlyBeldin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah ask and if you do not get the answer you are looking for then u need to move on
2007-05-22 16:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by latoya r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋