my son and his girlfriend keep moving back in with me because they were evicted from their apartment. i have already taken them in for 7 months before and i didn't get a penny from them. Now their here again and things are getting stressful for me because they don't respect me at all, and expect me to do everything for them. what do i do?? What would you do?? Keep in mind its my son and he has add/adhd, and i feel really guilty putting them on the street. Her mother won't help at all, she'd rather drink all her money then help her own daughter.( shes an only child)
2007-05-22 15:22:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I would try and help them get on their own feet, but I would never just tell them to leave.
2007-05-22 15:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by Al 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not be an enabler.Teenager,pregnant girl friend?And just when do think it will get better?As long as you are there to pick up the pieces,it will always stay the same.Tough love sometimes is the only way to make someone start to take responsibility for their own actions.ADD/ADHD isn't the end of the earth.It is also one of the most over diagnosed maladies on record.And when you are no longer around to pick up the pieces,who will?Sorry,but I've been through it.It was tough and heartbreaking,but he is now a college grad,doing well-and did it himself.He and I are the very best of friends.
2007-05-22 15:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by david o 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say RAISE YOUR KIDS. But it sounds like maybe its a little late for that. Instead I guess I would say, tell your story to everyone you know in hopes of convincing someone else to raise their own kids like you didn't bother too.
Ultimately there is no easy way out on this one. One way or another its time for you to make a decision. You could consider keeping her and the baby and sending him to Job Corps. Then when he has a trained profession, neither of you will have a fair excuse to land in that predicament again.
2007-05-22 15:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by Meatball ;) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take them in again, but set some definite ground rules. Your son HAS to get a job, despite his affliction. They MUST contribute so that they can learn how to be on their own eventually. They WILL be on their own eventually, RIGHT??
2007-05-22 15:30:53 · answer #4 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suck it up. If your teen kid got someone pregnant, to some extent, it's also your responsibility. That doesn't mean you have to let them walk over you. On the contrary, use this to finish the education you haven't quite given him and try to assure your grandchild has a better chance.
2007-05-22 15:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by Dull 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple solution: quit allowing them to come into YOUR home.
you're not a victim, you're a volunteer.
If you continue to enable him, he will never be able to stand on his own. Sometimes you have to let them fall.
2007-05-22 15:29:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋