im working through an infedelity issue in my marriage, and i find it hard to except that hubby is sorry. he's gotten on his kness and begged for forgivness, but i just think he lying? are men even capable of being sincere?
2007-05-22 15:12:33 · 28 answers · asked by phattkitty23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes men are capable of being sincere but you are hurting right now so it's hard for you to take anything he's saying as the truth.
2007-05-22 15:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not all men are heartless, brainless sex machines. Yes, men are capable of being sincere. However, if you know he cheated and you can't live with it, you need to be upfront with him about it now and end this. Don't drag things out and bring up the problems for years to come. Either get counseling and work through it, or end the marriage.
2007-05-22 15:19:25 · answer #2 · answered by Angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
phatt,
Question 1: "are all men heartless,brainless, sex machines? (sic)"
It's never a good idea to deal with absolutes. Are ALL men {whatever you wish}? The answer is no. Just as, Are ALL women {whatever you wish}? The answer is still no.
Question 2: "are men even capable of being sincere?"
Capable, yes, certainly...as capable as any woman. Are there insincere women out there? You betcha.
You're understandably bitter in the way you were treated. I don't think anyone wants to take that from you. Does that make ALL men liars and cheaters? No.
You have a decision to make...to forgive or not. Not to forgive 'mankind' as it were...to forgive your spouse for his transgressions.
2007-05-22 15:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfsburgh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will base my answer on my ex husbands behaviour. When he cheated on me the first time he did the same thing, When he cheated on me the second time, he did the same again, and the third, the fourth......must I continue? I know now he was only sorry for getting caught. I had 2 children so I felt trapped and was terrified of being on own, but I did it. I never trusted him, everytime he walked out the door,whether it was to go to the store, I was thinking, "he's cheating". It totally consumed me then I realised, How was this living? What example was I to my children? I don't know if your hubby will do it again, but odds are, he will. And, once that trust is gone, your marriage is over. To answer your 2nd query, Yes, there are sincere men out there. I am remarried to the love of my life. I trust him, and he has never given me a reason to think otherwise.
2007-05-22 15:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by anyoldjanedoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes people are always saying all women this all men that. It is not all one or the other. It is the one you are with that is not working. My x was a cheater but I didnt hold it agaist all men my 2nd was a abuser and if I held that against all men I'd be alone the rest of my life but I am happily married to the man of my dreams and he is my life as I am him. Dont let one bad seed discourage you let go move on and find the one. Drop the zero and find your self a hero.
2007-05-22 15:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by lyttledarlin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are all women heartless, brainless, sex machines? Of course not. Same for men. Being candid, with the attitude that you are displaying it does not seem to me that you are working through anything.
2007-05-22 15:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by Randy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are capable of being sincere yes, but the human nature of people wanting to eat and reproduce still affects men more.
But if there is a problem, it is a problem with your man . . . it is understandable you would think that way temporarily, but if you find you can't trust men again you need help.
Just don't begin judging other books because of one books cover.
2007-05-22 15:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes they are capable of being sincere. Not long ago I went through something similar......my husband cheated. He was sorry, etc. The only thing that I can tell you is it takes time. His actions will speak louder than words if he is sincere.
2007-05-22 15:20:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. they pretty much all want to be with more than one woman. westerners shun this, but take a look around....it doesnt matter what race, religion, or income. Most men always take other women to bed. I think I am immune to it now to be honest. Why keep shedding tears over this issue when everybody is going through thesame thing day in and day out?
2007-05-22 17:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by Wisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Correction noted. And gratefully received. Keep in mind, actions speak louder than words... so even if you hadn't corrected this - but your actions suggested you did not feel this way, most would observe this fact. On the other hand, if you did correct it - and your actions still suggested you believed it, that too would be observed by most. As it is - I haven't followed many of your posts to decide either way :o)
2016-05-20 06:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by lavera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋