I understand your feeling of wanting someone to love you unconditionally but that is no reason to want to have a child.
I am 21, 5 months preg, becoming a single mom and at a university..going to school full time and it's sooooo hard. Not only am I going to school full time, I am working full time!
Before I was pregnant, I was loving college life, going out, partying with friends, living sorority life, traveling wherever and whenever I wanted...than my life changed instantly when I found out I was pregnant. I am not going to be a hypocrite because I would not trade being pregnant but at that point I was living life according to ME! Having a baby is so much responsiblity, it's hard emotionally, physically and financially...my daughter isn't even here yet! But again, she is a blessing in disguise!
My advice is wait hun, you are going to a university, you are going to experience so much, don't deprive yourself of experiencing college life...you will not regret it! If you are pregnant, it's not impossible to accomplish your goals while pregnant...harder yes, but not impossible.
If you aren't pregnant...wait! Get your career going, begin the journey of your life and live it according to YOU!
If you are pregnant.....understand it will be hard, not impossible.....just be ready to sacrafice whatever it may be for your unborn...
Good luck....
2007-05-23 09:16:38
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answered by oOoLaLaiTzSina 3
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It is really hard to keep your life on track when you are raising a child alone. They take up a lot of time, and need so much attention that your school work would certainly suffer. And in order for you to give you and any child you may have a better future you need your education. Sometimes when we think we really want something so bad that's all we can focus on, once we get it, it turns out that's not what we really wanted at all. Maybe volunteer at a hospital, or even an SPCA, cause little animals need love too. But I do suggest you hold off having a baby for a few more years.
2007-05-22 22:02:00
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answered by ♥Instantkarma♥♫ 7
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I think you need to wait. Babies don't love you, they "need" you. You should enjoy being young & have fun in school. If you have a baby right now it will turn your life upside down. A baby deserves a stable life with all things it's needs. You can't offer either right now. You need to meet a guy who wants the same as you & get married, then have a baby. I was a single parent for several years & it's the hardest job I've ever had. Babies are wonderful but they also need a lot. How will you go to school & work a fulltime job to support you & a baby? Wait.
2007-05-23 16:23:43
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answered by foreverhoyt 3
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I waited until I was 28 years old to get pregnant, one reason is that it most definitely takes alot of family to raise a child right. I wanted to be able to have a job that I was making a good amount of money to support the baby by myself if the man I was with didn't stick around. Now I am 42 years old a mother of 3 beautiful girls, and divorced. Fortunately me and my x are good friends, we see each other all the time. Nobody pays any child support to each other , if one of the girls needs something between us two they will always have what they need. If I need help with something he is there to help me, and me for him. We were friends before lovers and husband and wife. And that is a hard thing to do for a lot of people when feelings and children are involved. To have a child just because you, yourself want one is one of the most selfish things you can do. NO MORE partying , you must pay for a babysitter just to go out for a little time with out Mom this and Mom that. I love my kids with all my heart and they know this. They also know what to say and do to hurt your feelings to. The sadness when they get so mad at you for not letting them do something they want ,and those words come out of their mouths, "I hate you" it makes you want to cry. Then when they apologize and tell you they didn't mean it, it will make you cry again.
2007-05-23 04:01:18
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answered by Anonymous
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I was 23 and in college when I unexpectedly found myself pregnant. That was 15 years ago. Do yourself and your future child a favor and put it on hold. I decided to stay in school (and did graduate one year late) but I also had to work, sometimes full time. It was not only very hard, but I still feel so sad that I deprived my child and myself of all the special times that go by so quickly when kids are infants. Please enjoy your youth. You will still have that love to give a baby in a few years, not to mention a stable home.
2007-05-22 21:55:28
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answered by tina m 2
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ur to young trust me. we have all been there im 19 and last year i wanted a baby so badly but now im so grateful i listened to my mother. ur not ready still in school not even out of ur home just wait whats the hurry. i believe u feel lonely like u need some one by ur side that won't judge or leave u how about u talk to someone about it. probably in the phase of depression. well if ur pregnant i believe u should have the baby and give it up for adoption. well thats just me find some help talk to someone u trust. good luck i wish u the best.
2007-05-22 23:30:46
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answered by Jack 2
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NO YOU CANT give a baby the life they deserve if you dont grow up first and get your Sh*t together.
To have a baby unprepared like this would be so selfish of you. how do you plan on providing for this kid? do you realize how difficult it is to have a child and try to go to school at the same time? and work a full time job on top of that? Are you planning on getting a job to provide for this kid or are you going to go on welfare? are you confident that you'll get a good job with a high school diploma? because you probably won't. Babies are cute and cuddly, but they dont go away, they cost a lot and they cry loud. Grow up and consider all that before you decide to have a kid.
2007-05-22 21:53:48
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answered by vixalle21 4
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Be honest with your parents if you are pregnant now. As for giving your baby a good life,you can still go to college and have your baby. I do believe colleges have daycares for mothers in school. Also the father would have to help support the child. But if you aren`t pregnant it would be best to wit till after college to get pregnant. And make sure the father is someone you care for and he cares for you.
2007-05-22 21:56:51
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answered by Frank G 1
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I am 25 married and 3 kids, and I have only gone out clubbing twice. Didn't finish college cause i couldn't do work, kids, and school at the same time. If your life is good enjoy it now and adopt a cat or babysit somebodies kid. But if you are pregnant i wish you the best.
Good Luck
2007-05-22 21:57:57
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answered by Caliborn 1
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Go seek the help of a mental health therapist right away. That is the best advice anybody can give you. High Schools usually have a pyschologist in the school system. You can even check with your local heath department for therapist and they might even have sliding scale payments.
2007-05-22 22:03:11
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answered by Anonymous
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