Our son married a young woman with a checkered past. Although we warned him to watch out. (she's done this 2 x before). Married military man, pregnant, divorce. He of course the last one to know what was up. Now serving in Iraq. She the stay at home mom of now my grandson, wants a divorce in the state of kentucky. My son is beyond done with her behavior. He can't deal with this while fighting a war. Worried about his son, he's really up against a wall. Is there an agency or service available in the state of Kentucky to help with situations such as these? My son and grandson needs advice. Legally and so forth. He is a good young man and takes his responsibility to god, family, country seriously. he needs our help. The wife is enjoying the benefits of his pay while overseas and the power of attorney she has. She has not been financially responsible in my sons abscence and now he has bad debt to add to his trouble. Any attorney's of Family Law or otherwise out there can offer advice?
2007-05-22 13:38:57 · 8 answers · asked by duboice j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As an ex-military, retired after22yrs of svc and in
charge of over125soldiers at one time, several
cases such as your son had occured. Your son
can change the power of attorney to adjust it so
that you being his parents can have control of
certain things that he states he wants you to have
control of. He also needs to initiate the divorce if
in fact he is ready because of the doings of the
wife as that way he will have control over the di-
vorce especially if he can prove that his wife is
not worthy of being a good wife and a mother. A
lawyer is needed to settle or arrange any assets
or payments that will be needed to take care of
his son. If it is not proven that the mother is a bad
mother then she will probably have custody of
the son with him supporting the son monetarily.
In the mean time I agree with one that anwered
to only send the wife the money that he gets paid
for having a dependent and have the other part of
his paycheck set up differently and not send all
to her. As long as he sends enough to sustain his
wife and son for the present then she cannot use
that against him later on when he files for divorce.
Make sure he uses his chain of command and
the legal system(JAG) for any additional help that
he needs and any proof that you may have to
show that his wife is a bad wife or bad mother
would also help. Sorry to hear about his problem
as I know what it means to be in War and have
personal problems at home. God bless and good
luck to you all .
2007-05-22 15:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband's in the Army and just got back from Afghanistan as well. He has several friends that have gone through things like this. His advice was to serve her with divorce papers first by going to JAG first. If she goes first, she'll have more control of the divorce preceding. I don't think it's a matter of what state you're in (i.e. Kentucky) but that he's in the military and there's a program set up for this kind of stuff. He should use these resources. Meanwhile, try to get it to where you guys can watch his son instead of her taking him and running with him, etc. If he can talk to JAG and tell them what's going on and you (or someone in your husband's family) is deemed more responsible and you can prove the bad things she's done, then do it. Hope this helps and good luck.. sorry to hear what's happening to him.
2007-05-22 13:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by Miranda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would strongly suggest in his absence you consult a lawyer familiar with the laws in the state of Kentucky where she is residing and see what can be done.The fact they are married however will weigh against him, unless he files for divorce now, which he should be able to do with your help from Iraq. Once he files for divorce I believe any debt she incurs now will be hers, but check into it fast..
2007-05-22 13:46:23 · answer #3 · answered by Innisfil g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son can revoke the power of attorney any time. He can name one of his parents if he wants to handle his income. You should figure out a way to stop the bleeding first.
If you think she is on drugs or abusing the kids, you can go to child support services to investigate. This helps set up getting sole custody in future divorce proceedings.
2007-05-22 13:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to contact a JAG lawyer. He also has the option of not deposting his whole pay into their account. The Army will send her the dependant pay and housing allowence, but the bulk of his pay can be put into an account in his name and he can use that to pay his bad debt down.
2007-05-22 13:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-05-22 17:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by james 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need a good lawyer. I will say a prayer for him. stick by him he will need u good luck.
2007-05-22 13:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No advice, but he does have my sympathy.
2007-05-22 13:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by Randy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋