Recently, I had a job offer that was more money (25% + more)and promotion. Because of greed of getting more money than the original offer, I held back. Because of my mistake, the deal fell through and the employer hired someone else. This has been really bothering me. It has been nearly two months now and I can't get past this. I cannot even focus on my current job and my family. I don't know what to do. I feel like I missed out and it's bothering me beyond words. I have never felt like this before. Call it crazy, but I sometimes even get to tears. Help! How can I overcome this? How would you rank this in terms of a regretful life event? Thank you for your help.
2007-05-22 13:23:47 · 10 answers · asked by Hurting 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You have asked this question almost 30 times over the last 3 weeks and this is the only activity on your profile.What gives?.Let it go already life is about learning from your mistakes and you should have learned a good one.
2007-05-22 13:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by Jim C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All of us have done things that we later greatly regret. That is human nature. You have to get past this or its going to eat you alive. It is probably causing you problems at home and in your current job. Hopefully something else will come along at a later time and you can take that position. I am a true believer in everything happening for a reason. You may look back on this months from now and be happy that you did not take the job offer because a much better one came along. Hopefully, that will be the case. Look forward, not back.
2007-05-22 13:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have also made what seemed like the wrong choice at the time, and have usually had it work out. I understand how you feel, second-guessing yourself and wanting to kick yourself at the same time, probably. Totally normal, but keep moving forward. Learn from this mistake, let it build your character, then move on. You may never get over it, but your life will go on, and it sounds like a cliche, but time does help. Two years ago, my best friend and business partner (oxymoron) hurt me in many ways, I even lost my house because of this. The signs were there, I knew I should get out, but I didn't until it was too late and I was basically on the street. It's taken a long time, but I finally forgave myself for being stupid and moved on. Forgive yourself.
2007-05-22 13:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by Violet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take another perspective. Despite the best attempts of our materialistic consumer society to convince us otherwise, you need to acknowledge the fact that money isn't everything and it rarely brings happiness. Surveys conducted by sociologists and psychologists have shown, time and time again, that people who have jobs that they find meaningful, or at least enjoyable, are happier than those who work meaningless, tedious, stressful, or otherwise enjoyable jobs simply to make big bucks. However, if you can't stop focusing on money and promotions then you can at least move on by accepting the fact that, until someone invents a time machine, you can't change the past...so don't obsess over it. Just learn from your mistake and move on.
2007-05-22 13:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by The Man In The Box 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rest assured. You are the type of person who is not afraid to take a chance. Many people make the mistake of taking the easier way out. That's not what this is. Use this as a learning experience, and put it behind you. Eventually you will get another opportunity, and you will be able to act, perhaps a little more conservatively. Good luck!!
2007-05-22 13:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by jsardi56 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everything happens for a reason......your better choice may be right around the corner......or maybe you made the right choice....cause maybe the other employer isnt as good to his/her employees......the grass is always greener on the other side till ya get over there.....you made an awesome decision.....roll with it...........
2007-05-22 13:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by johnny dred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Win some, lose some. Stay out of the casinos.
2007-05-22 13:31:25 · answer #7 · answered by SIGGY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to someone about it! family, friend, counselor, priest, whatever! and try to GET OVER IT, u cant go back in time! just work on making better choices next time!
2007-05-22 13:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by iknow 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you ask this a few days ago?
2007-05-22 13:28:31 · answer #9 · answered by Bag-A-Donuts 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a repeat, already answered... ~
2007-05-22 13:33:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋